Why are you sad/mad/upset? (place to complain)

[*Deidre*]

I don't really want to make a whole thread dedicated to myself, so anyone can post why they're upset here.

For me:
My boyfriend just told me by text that he thinks he might want to break up with me and he says he might like someone else. We've been together for about 4 or 5 years and this is totally unexpected... I'm in tears right now... I don't know what to do. I thought our relationship was better than it was before. I feel so lost. He's basically my only friend- I don't have anyone else to talk to or hang out with outside of class. I don't know who to turn to. He's the only person I've ever had that I could be myself with.

I guess there's still a little hope for my relationship, but damn. It just hurts so bad. I know it's really lame to write this on a forum that I only have like 40 posts on, but I just don't know where else to vent right now.

I'm still really young and I know it's foolish to think that there's no one else out there for me, but... yeah- that's basically how I feel right now.

I echo what Cato said. Breaking up with you by text?

Something interesting that you might want to reflect on. I doubt that your relationship with him was going well. Most likely, there were red flags and because you have chosen to make him your whole world, you ignored those red flags to keep things going. The sheer fact that he is breaking up with you by text, shows he has no respect for you as a person, or his gf.

My advice. Cry by yourself. Spend time alone and healing from this, but cut this guy off immediately. Don't argue, don't anything. Cut contact and start learning how to respect yourself again. Find what makes you happy, without him or any guy. I went through something similar, dating assholes...and the only way to heal, is to do the tough work on yourself. So, you don't attract more jerks like this one.

Sorry, he's a jerk. You are emotionally invested right now, and it's hard to see what we all see here. But, any guy who would tell you this through text is an asshole.

Seriously, cut contact and start working on rebuilding your own life, interests, hobbies, without him. It will take time, but you will get there.

Don't ever settle for this type of person in your life. You deserve the best. (((hugs)))

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I think another important thing to note is that it can be quite fun and fulfilling to be single. I've spend quite a while being in various relationships and now have been single for a few months. It's great being able to make all my own decisions without considering someone else's feelings or opinions. Also it's fun to be able to flirt freely with a plethora of different people. Sometimes it's nice to be single.

and this, too.