RE: Why are you sad/mad/upset? (place to complain)
April 19, 2014 at 2:43 pm
(This post was last modified: April 19, 2014 at 2:45 pm by Sedna.)
(April 19, 2014 at 2:28 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: I echo what Cato said. Breaking up with you by text?Well it's been kinda bad in the past, but he's not a bad guy. I know I sound like one of those pathetic people who can't see how much their relationship really sucks. Well, maybe I am one of those. But I thought it was going good.
Something interesting that you might want to reflect on. I doubt that your relationship with him was going well. Most likely, there were red flags and because you have chosen to make him your whole world, you ignored those red flags to keep things going. The sheer fact that he is breaking up with you by text, shows he has no respect for you as a person, or his gf.
My advice. Cry by yourself. Spend time alone and healing from this, but cut this guy off immediately. Don't argue, don't anything. Cut contact and start learning how to respect yourself again. Find what makes you happy, without him or any guy. I went through something similar, dating assholes...and the only way to heal, is to do the tough work on yourself. So, you don't attract more jerks like this one.
Sorry, he's a jerk. You are emotionally invested right now, and it's hard to see what we all see here. But, any guy who would tell you this through text is an asshole.
Seriously, cut contact and start working on rebuilding your own life, interests, hobbies, without him. It will take time, but you will get there.
Don't ever settle for this type of person in your life. You deserve the best. (((hugs)))
(April 19, 2014 at 2:03 pm)CapnAwesome Wrote: I think another important thing to note is that it can be quite fun and fulfilling to be single. I've spend quite a while being in various relationships and now have been single for a few months. It's great being able to make all my own decisions without considering someone else's feelings or opinions. Also it's fun to be able to flirt freely with a plethora of different people. Sometimes it's nice to be single.
and this, too.
I'm scared
(April 19, 2014 at 2:43 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: It's really great that you are so open and honest about this, Sedna. That will help you heal faster. I think that it's good to highlight what you just posted there. Sometimes, we get comfortable with the wrong person.Thanks, Deidre
It's harder sometimes to let go of stability and comfort, than it is to venture out into the great unknown. It's natural to feel scared right now, but you will get through this.
I really just have no idea what I'm going to do. I really don't have anyone else in my life right now.
