(April 19, 2014 at 2:43 pm)Sedna Wrote:(April 19, 2014 at 2:28 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: I echo what Cato said. Breaking up with you by text?Well it's been kinda bad in the past, but he's not a bad guy. I know I sound like one of those pathetic people who can't see how much their relationship really sucks. Well, maybe I am one of those. But I thought it was going good.
Something interesting that you might want to reflect on. I doubt that your relationship with him was going well. Most likely, there were red flags and because you have chosen to make him your whole world, you ignored those red flags to keep things going. The sheer fact that he is breaking up with you by text, shows he has no respect for you as a person, or his gf.
My advice. Cry by yourself. Spend time alone and healing from this, but cut this guy off immediately. Don't argue, don't anything. Cut contact and start learning how to respect yourself again. Find what makes you happy, without him or any guy. I went through something similar, dating assholes...and the only way to heal, is to do the tough work on yourself. So, you don't attract more jerks like this one.
Sorry, he's a jerk. You are emotionally invested right now, and it's hard to see what we all see here. But, any guy who would tell you this through text is an asshole.
Seriously, cut contact and start working on rebuilding your own life, interests, hobbies, without him. It will take time, but you will get there.
Don't ever settle for this type of person in your life. You deserve the best. (((hugs)))
and this, too.
I'm scared
I don't know him, but let me say this. When a guy tells you he likes someone else, this means he has already spent time on someone else, to get to the level of liking the person. That might hurt, but it's true. Candy coating this won't help you move past him.
He may have started out nice, but how he is treating you NOW, isn't nice. He is texting you that he likes someone else. Truth is, he has already turned his gaze to someone else, and yet doesn't want to lose his ace in the hole, his sure thing, which is you.
Cut contact. It might sound cold, but if you keep the door open for this guy, he will take advantage. I know the type!
I could write the book on them. lolHang in there, girl.
