My brother's bible class was teaching him about "addiction"

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Then you have seasoned porn performers who defend the industry at every opportunity who come out and say this:

I have super mixed feelings about that interview.

I'm a part of the Kink audience, I'm familiar with the kind of content they produce to the point where I can pretty much point out the sub-site this woman is talking about just from her descriptions; the mentions of masked men and extras makes me think of Publicdisgrace, which a short search of the site in question reveals that, indeed, she did a movie for that site that seems to match. And then several after, which I'll get into later.

The more I think about it, actually, the more I disagree with Aurora, the model who wrote this article, and it's not just because she did more shoots with the company. For one, what, exactly, was she expecting to happen? She didn't use her safeword, she didn't verbalize her desire to stop in a way that was agreed upon in advance, and once it became clear that she did want out she was untied and given, from what I've read, perfectly adequate aftercare. And this is a "nightmare"? Not only was she treated perfectly fine for the context, according to her own descriptions, but the failure of communication was hers.

This is a particularly frightening issue for me; as a dom, one of my greatest fears is unknowingly going beyond my sub's comfort zone and doing him or her actual harm. The need for a safeword, for all parties to be clear on what it means (and that it's not a failure or a disappointment to use it) is essential, and I know Kink goes through this with the models beforehand, because they do it on camera at the beginning of every movie. Their safewords aren't hard (it's the classic "yellow/red light" system) nor was the woman ever gagged in this particular shoot, which isn't to say she didn't have something in her mouth, just that she could remove it easily and anyway, Kink does secondary safeword signals for those cases; there's simply no reason she couldn't have used it, and no indication that the scene would have continued regardless if she had.

In BDSM scenes, people scream. They cry (Kink stops to get permission to continue when there's tears, by the way, so... ) and they bruise... it's hard to tell when that crosses the line from scene pain to legitimate pain. Maybe those involved should have been reading the sub's body language more closely, but come the fuck on: this stuff relies on communication from both parties, and she openly admits to not holding up her end of the deal. And it's a big deal; the dom might hold the flogger, but it's ultimately up to the sub to dictate the level of intensity she's comfortable with, which any dom worth their salt would comply with.

She had the right to speak up, and the appropriate means to do so. She didn't, and somehow that's the fault of everyone else, who did act appropriately?

Anyway, that's my little dom moment. Sorry to derail the thread.