superstarr it is clear that you know nothing about the Bible. Psalm 139:16 does not cause controversy except in your mind. To christians this verse is quite clear but with your Bibically untrained mined I guess that's to be expected. Frodo is correct in saying the Bible is not a science text and if you had ever read it you just might come to understand that but sense you are not interested in educating your self about that which you want to argue against then why even try. By the way there is no if about it, I'm a christian and am happy to be living in a relationship with God.
God loves those who believe and those who do not and the same goes for me, you have no choice in this matter. That puts the matter of total free will to rest.