RE: Coming out stories
November 18, 2014 at 8:02 am
(This post was last modified: November 18, 2014 at 8:06 am by Holden Caulfield.)
I wish had your family OP. Sounds awesome haha. However gotta say I love having deep conversations with my family.
I have realized I was an atheist since maybe 14ish years old. Around 16/17 I started talking to my mom and brother about it. My brother shares my world view and we share everything so it is all good. My mom is great and I think she shares most of my views of the world only with an impossibly positive great spin to avoid conflict.
The thing for me was my dad. He comes from a hardcore catholic family. We are talking french catholic so hard that my grandparents were actually in a catholic cult for a while. He comes from the most religious family ever. Which probably plays a huge part in his not enforcing religion on me. Which I am greatly happy about. It allowed me to explore me own views.
However it was only last year (at 24) that I was able to "come out" to my dad. I was upset at him and threw my atheism in his face. And in complete opposition of logic he didn't disown me. While my father is not really a "practicing" catholic he still believes. When I did this I was completely not prepared for the conversation but it was still a great one. Now I have sooooo much more ammo I seriously cannot wait for round 2 (which will happen at Xmas this year).
But it's just another topic to discuss. If your religous/non-religious believes alienate your family they were not worth your love in the first place. My father is still religious but I still love him. Love goes further than petty squabbles like that. In fact I love having discussions about life/afterline/morals/god(s) with him. We go back and forth and it's so much fun and interesting. It has in fact brought us closer our discussions about the world around us and the meaning of life. We've never had real discussions like those, we have never been closer even when I was living under his house.
You'll probably never agree 100% with anybody in this world. If you can use your disagreements to become closer with the people you love it only makes you stronger.
I have realized I was an atheist since maybe 14ish years old. Around 16/17 I started talking to my mom and brother about it. My brother shares my world view and we share everything so it is all good. My mom is great and I think she shares most of my views of the world only with an impossibly positive great spin to avoid conflict.
The thing for me was my dad. He comes from a hardcore catholic family. We are talking french catholic so hard that my grandparents were actually in a catholic cult for a while. He comes from the most religious family ever. Which probably plays a huge part in his not enforcing religion on me. Which I am greatly happy about. It allowed me to explore me own views.
However it was only last year (at 24) that I was able to "come out" to my dad. I was upset at him and threw my atheism in his face. And in complete opposition of logic he didn't disown me. While my father is not really a "practicing" catholic he still believes. When I did this I was completely not prepared for the conversation but it was still a great one. Now I have sooooo much more ammo I seriously cannot wait for round 2 (which will happen at Xmas this year).
But it's just another topic to discuss. If your religous/non-religious believes alienate your family they were not worth your love in the first place. My father is still religious but I still love him. Love goes further than petty squabbles like that. In fact I love having discussions about life/afterline/morals/god(s) with him. We go back and forth and it's so much fun and interesting. It has in fact brought us closer our discussions about the world around us and the meaning of life. We've never had real discussions like those, we have never been closer even when I was living under his house.
You'll probably never agree 100% with anybody in this world. If you can use your disagreements to become closer with the people you love it only makes you stronger.
“Religion was invented when the first con man met the first fool.”
― Mark Twain
― Mark Twain
