As Schopenhauer argued in his brilliant "Prize Essay on the Freedom of the Will," "I can do what I will: I can, if I will, give everything I have to the poor and thus become poor myself—if I will! But I cannot will this, because the opposing motives have much too much power over me for me to be able to. On the other hand, if I had a different character, even to the extent that I were a saint, then I would be able to will it. But then I could not keep from willing it, and hence I would have to do so."
He who loves God cannot endeavour that God should love him in return - Baruch Spinoza