What came first, the atheist or the theist?

[Tiberius]

Wikipedia: "Most inclusively, atheism is simply the absence of belief that any deities exist."

Dictionary.com: "disbelief in the existence of a supreme being or beings."

American Heritage: "Disbelief in or denial of the existence of God or gods."

I could go on, but I think I've made my point with the above. (bolding mine). Wikipedia describes atheism as denial, as believing there is no God, and then goes on to say that "most inclusively" it refers to the absence of belief (not believing). Dictionary.com describes it as a disbelief. The American Heritage goes one further and makes sure to include the separator "or" to make sure that people like yourself don't try to confuse disbelief and denial, because they are quite evidently completely different things.

and of course you refuse to believe in god! do you not indicate an unwillingness to believe in god?

Since when is an unwillingness to believe equal to a refusal to believe? Unwillingness is another word for reluctance, and you can be reluctant yet still go through with something, whereas you can't be said to refuse to do something and do it.

Regardless, I'm not unwilling to believe. I'm perfectly willing. All I require is some evidence.