Challenge regarding Christian morality

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I've heard many, many cases where couples who can't stand being around each other any more separate, and this is way better for the children. And the cases where they fight and stay together, such as my parents, result in it being worse for the kids.

You've identified a problem where couples stay together and fight all the time and it's worse for the kids than if they separated. This is where christian teaching comes in. They have fallen out of romantic love for each other. But if they had the "real" love for each other and the children, which is the love we're supposed to have for all people, they would refrain from fighting and instead demonstrate "true" love. This love is shown by giving up their desires to "get back" at each other and instead live in harmony for the good of the family. We do this in other life situations all the time. This is what we're called upon by God to do. Often relationships are healed in this way, but again we must act counter to our own desires for our own immediate gratification. Morality seems to most often occur when we act against what our natural tendencies push us to do.

I appreciate your honest answers, it is very refreshing. I would agree that loving enemies is about the least obvious from among the possible positive moral teachings. I would still find it obvious myself, but I can't speak for everyone. It does require our critical thinking to overcome our emotions, in a lot of situations.

Thanks. It's nice to know that we have some common ground on moral issues.