(January 24, 2015 at 3:55 pm)Esquilax Wrote: So basically you attempt to resolve the problem by defining a second, "real" type of love into existence by fiat assertion, without demonstrating that this love for all people is even possible, and... that's it? Problem exists, just make up a type of thing that solves the problem, and in your mind the problem is solved merely by dint of the fact that you could manufacture an answer out of thin air?
How do you know this "real" love is a realistic proposition for an average person? Or that it's even helpful or productive in the least?
I think there is a difference between what i'd call romantic love and true love. Often people get married because it's what they want for themselves. They see it as something that will make them happy. They really aren't prepared to hang in if the marriage doesn't provide them that happiness. They don't see a greater morality in staying in the marriage, even when children are involved. I just think saying that "the children will be better off apart because we fight all the time, is a way of saying "I don't want to sacrifice my own happiness and work to make peace in the household." Do you think it is impossible for a couple to put aside their differences and make a good marriage through love and their own human effort?
I'm speaking generally here. I'm not trying to be "holier than thou" and assume to be able to look into anyone's marriage and judge how they should act. I'm stating how I interpret christian moral principles and how I have applied them to my own marriage.
