(January 24, 2015 at 2:45 pm)Lek Wrote: Yes. I am suggesting that a married couple stay together even though they are not happy. Of course, when a christian marries he does make a commitment to God as well as his spouse and I can't remove that from my opinion.
You mean a Christian conceptualizes marriage as a promise to God to stick it out with your spouse. So conceptualize it that way if you like, it's up to you. Of course, your real commitment is to a fundamentalist interpretation of the rules of living divined from the bible .. whether or not that has anything to do with God. For all you know, God sheds a tear every day that two people stay together in misery out of deference to His wishes .. even though he could give no fucks who you fuck or live with. Perhaps He only wants to see everyone happy.
But of course, this isn't really about any actual god as you find it. It is just about your strident desire for the book to be a straight forward set of marching orders. So that being moral and good and saved are as simple as doing what your daddy tells you. The bible, read literally, saves you from ambiguity and uncertainty .. well .. you know, at least from their conscious recognition.
(January 24, 2015 at 2:45 pm)Lek Wrote: Even without the religious factor, I do view it as a lack of moral integrity to make a promise and then back out on it;
That's why it is important to think about what promises you really wish to make to each other and not just grab something off the shelf. All anyone can really promise each other is to do their best to work on it. But if you see that it is making you or your partner miserable, change could be preferable. Also people evolve and change. As we get a better understanding of ourself or our mate it may become necessary to amend or annul the original agreement. The only difference for Christians is you insist on it being the spouse's fault in order make the necessary changes.
