Self-racism?

[Dystopia]

I see nothing strange about it. Just because someone is racist does not have to mean they automatically think their own ethnicity is the best, or even good. Especially, if they were not brought up in that particular culture.

It seems like there might be a lot more to your girlfriend's story, than you described, that can explain her attitude. How come she was adopted and at what age? What happened to her biological parents? Does her adopted family have a prejudice against gypsies or other races? Was her ethnic background known to/ suspected by other children and adults when she was growing up? Because if so - they were mocking her for it, there's no question about it - I have yet to visit a country where "gypsy" is not used as a derogatory term. You seem to be suggesting she simply found out about her ancestry one day, when she was fully developed as a person and decided on the spot she hated gypsies, which I'm finding hard to believe.

- She was adopted because dad was a drug addict and mom was a prostitute - They didn't feed her or care for her. She was taken away from social security. To be fair her mom was gipsy but her dad was white, and he is way worse as a person compared to her mom
- Her family is friends with the biological parents and they don't have prejudices against them
- No, her ethnic background was not questioned - She looks mostly white and is socially perceived as a white person. I didn't know of her ancestry until she told me.
- She doesn't hate them in the literal meaning of the word, she is just prejudiced against those people. The reasons she points out are several - The fact her mom was a prostitute, married 7 times with different men to extort money and lived on welfare; the fact her mom didn't care for following sisters that are now living miserable lives because they didn't have the chance to be adopted; the fact most of her family lives in poor areas and has a culture that she doesn't accept and dislikes, etc.

Being an adopted child is difficult in itself, looking (even slightly) "exotic" can make it way worse, especially growing up. I'd guess she had some bad experiences, because of her ethnicity and instead of hating the culture in which she was raised, she - logically - "decided" (most likely sub-consciously) to blame the culture that she has next to nothing in common with, other than a few physical traits, for which she may have been persecuted. I'm not saying it's "right", just that it's understandable.

- She was never perceived as being a romani. She looks white to me, I only know about it because she told me. Yeah she does look slightly Indian but it's pretty common in my country for people to have some mixed heritage with white heritage - It's socially acceptable. Additionally, Romani people are usually more discriminated because of how they dress and not because of how they look - She dresses according to western fashion and not with traditional Romani clothes, so she is never perceived as being Romani, people look at her as white.