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Are Married Men "Husbands?" How About a New Term for a New Relationship?
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RE: Are Married Men "Husbands?" How About a New Term for a New Relationship?
(July 1, 2015 at 7:07 pm)Rev. Rye Wrote: I knew a lesbian couple at work once (well, technically, they were just two bisexual girls who dated for a while). I once heard one of them saying she wanted to be considered "the husband" in the relationship. Surprisingly, it was the less butch one who said she wanted to be "the husband." I can only assume she wanted her wife to have dinner ready for her when she went home after a long day of getting intimate with other girls at a titty bar (Yes, she did openly go to strip clubs, even when she was dating). Then again, she seemed to be stuck with a five-year-old's maturity and, from what I can gather, she seems to have been raised in a very conservative home. (FWIW, I have since met lesbians who were more "normal" than her.) I can only assume she used those terms because she couldn't think outside of those words.

Then again, is there a better alternative that doesn't seem as impersonal as "partner." I remember Elton John saying ""There is a world of difference between calling someone your 'partner' and calling them your 'husband'. 'Partner' is a word that should be preserved for people you play tennis with, or work alongside in business. It doesn't come close to describing the love that I have for David, and he for me. In contrast, 'husband' does."

That said, marriage itself is pretty much a throwback to a more paternalistic view of women and the world.

The word 'partner' does make me think of the Lone Ranger and Tonto. You're right, it doesn't describe the intimacy of a loving relationship.

Languages grow as society encounters new things that can't be adequately described by the existing lexicon.

"By the power invested in me by the state of affairs, I now pronounce you man and...uh..well. You may kiss the...um...hmmm."
The god who allows children to be raped out of respect for the free will choice of the rapist, but punishes gay men for engaging in mutually consensual sex couldn't possibly be responsible for an intelligently designed universe.

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RE: Are Married Men "Husbands?" How About a New Term for a New Relationship? - by Rhondazvous - July 2, 2015 at 10:36 am

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