Are Married Men "Husbands?" How About a New Term for a New Relationship?

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I'd like to suggest a male perspective on this question.  These gender issues always seem to portray men as creatures of special privilege, but ignore the implied responsibilities that come with it.

Let's look at "husband" as the owner / supporter of the house.  Does this mean the woman is not the owner of the house, and is therefore below the man in status?  Maybe.  But I think the word also implies extra duty: that the man is the one who has the burden of driving the family through life, of making sure the house thrives, of making sure his wife and children are provided for.

If modern women are not keen on being seen as second in the house, I'd argue that modern men probably aren't that excited about taking all the blame for failure, and all the responsibility for success, when most men are probably married to wives with similar education and intellectual capacity as themselves.  We all know that men die younger than women.  I think the pressure of filling this role, which is not reasonable, is a big part of this.

Why can't we just drop all this shit, and call it like it is: a "husband" is a male spouse, and a "wife" is a female spouse.  Except foor kooky Christians, I don't think anyone else really takes those words to mean more than that.

Point taken. Shared privilege should definitely be accompanied by shared responsibility. If I make a decision in my life, then I have to deal with the consequences of that decision. That's the difference between being a grown women and being a little girl. In a relationship decisions should be shared and the consequences shared as well.