(July 12, 2015 at 12:47 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:(July 12, 2015 at 11:28 am)whateverist Wrote: There are advantages to going it alone in terms of focus and honest appraisal. It would also give you a chance to see what erotic imagery and narrative arises by really tuning in. Don't let sex be merely a physical thing. The mind is the most important sex organ. The only harm in porn* is that it can smother your own imagination. I wonder what catholic marriage counselors advise?
*Assuming only consenting adults who go into the porn industry for good healthy reasons are used. Hahahahahhahahhah
I definitely don't see sex as merely a physical thing, but as a spiritual and emotional thing as well... though I think in different ways than what you mean here.
I respect your opinion, but I just really don't agree that it's not possible to have those same advantages through actually having sex. If you are together with your spouse for a lifetime and you take your time and practice open and honest communication in the bedroom, I absolutely think you can have all these advantages.
The difference, I think, is between good enough, pedantic love making and becoming a sexual connaisseurship. Not to put too fine a point on it.
