If you teach yourself that life is inherently unfair and that you won't get ahead unless you are fated to... you almost certainly won't get ahead. When you come to realize that you have an inordinate amount of influence on how your life goes, you are much more likely to get the life that you want. Those two mindsets are not compatible; one must be rejected completely in order to allow the other to have an effect.
"Well, evolution is a theory. It is also a fact. And facts and theories are different things, not rungs in a hierarchy of increasing certainty. Facts are the world's data. Theories are structures of ideas that explain and interpret facts. Facts don't go away when scientists debate rival theories to explain them. Einstein's theory of gravitation replaced Newton's in this century, but apples didn't suspend themselves in midair, pending the outcome. And humans evolved from ape- like ancestors whether they did so by Darwin's proposed mechanism or by some other yet to be discovered."
-Stephen Jay Gould
-Stephen Jay Gould
