RE: Friend deleted me after 2 years because i'm atheist
October 16, 2015 at 3:24 pm
(This post was last modified: October 16, 2015 at 3:25 pm by MTL.)
Hey! I just realized something:
your friend, and my sister,
have never been seen in the same room, at the same time.
(I kid, of course. But he does sound just like my narcissistic sister).
This is what I recently figured out about my sister....maybe it will help you with your friend:
My sister used to try to debate with me,
but her techniques (like your friend's techniques)
were lazy and corrupt in method.
Instead of arguing by the method of Point >> Proof >> Comment,
(Make your Point >> Support your Point with Proof >> Make an intelligent comment on it)
She argued by the method of Assertion >> Assumption >> Denunciation.
(If I just Assert Something enough times, then it will BECOME absolutely true,
If I Assume Something, then it MUST be true,
If I Denounce Something you say, that makes it absolutely UNTRUE).
Finally, she realized that in an intelligent debate, she couldn't win, because:
1. I am too good at exposing her bullshit,
2. That she has given me a wealth of bullshit to expose.
So her solution is also twofold:
1. Create the PRIMARY illusion
...that anything that *I* will say is going to be bullshit;
2. Create the SECONDARY illusion
....that it is therefore intolerable to even consider the idea, that my words deserve the chance to even be uttered.
And that, IMO, seems like rather sociopathic behaviour, and utterly lacks all integrity.
Such a person is not worth bothering with....and is unlikely to ever change.
I'm sorry that you had the unhappy experience of your friendship dissolving.
But better to be alone for the right reasons,
than to be friends for the wrong ones.
your friend, and my sister,
have never been seen in the same room, at the same time.
(I kid, of course. But he does sound just like my narcissistic sister).
This is what I recently figured out about my sister....maybe it will help you with your friend:
My sister used to try to debate with me,
but her techniques (like your friend's techniques)
were lazy and corrupt in method.
Instead of arguing by the method of Point >> Proof >> Comment,
(Make your Point >> Support your Point with Proof >> Make an intelligent comment on it)
She argued by the method of Assertion >> Assumption >> Denunciation.
(If I just Assert Something enough times, then it will BECOME absolutely true,
If I Assume Something, then it MUST be true,
If I Denounce Something you say, that makes it absolutely UNTRUE).
Finally, she realized that in an intelligent debate, she couldn't win, because:
1. I am too good at exposing her bullshit,
2. That she has given me a wealth of bullshit to expose.
So her solution is also twofold:
1. Create the PRIMARY illusion
...that anything that *I* will say is going to be bullshit;
2. Create the SECONDARY illusion
....that it is therefore intolerable to even consider the idea, that my words deserve the chance to even be uttered.
And that, IMO, seems like rather sociopathic behaviour, and utterly lacks all integrity.
Such a person is not worth bothering with....and is unlikely to ever change.
I'm sorry that you had the unhappy experience of your friendship dissolving.
But better to be alone for the right reasons,
than to be friends for the wrong ones.
