It's not that they are backasswards so much but rather putting the best interests of the children doesn't seem to carry the weight it should. There are just as many shitty moms (I have one) as there are shitty dads. The courts just want to push families through and be done with it. My ex seems willing to play the game at the expense of my kids because he has money and gets his way. His hatred of me will only reflect badly in the future. The only thing I can hope for is that one day my kids wise up to it.
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