Church demands the victim apologize to pastor's wife since the pastor did the rape.

[Thumpalumpacus]

Here, let's look at the definition.


https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/us/amends

That is the only interpretation of that phrase, and it implicitly carries with it a charge of wrong-doing. Why you're ascribing that to me when it is the church which chose to insinuate wrong-doing on her part baffles me. I think you're upset at the wrong target.

I'm not saying she did anything wrong. I don't think she owes that church a goddamned thing, except perhaps a public excoriation for their disgusting behavior and a big, public middle finger.

So you would disagree with this definition then.
From:  https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/make_amends

(idiomatic) To repair a relationship; to make up; to resolve an argument or fight; to make reparations or redress.  [quotations ▼]

   I hope they can stop fighting and make amends.

I think that the one who was wronged in a situation, can attempt to make amends.  Although really it is not a single sided endeavor.  

To make reparations or your definition is not a wrong definition, but it is not the only one.

I've emphasized the problematic part of that definition (not that I regard Wiktionary as a better English reference than the Oxford English Dictionary).

Putting the onus on her to make amends is the issue, don't you agree? After all, it was the Church employee who violated her, not the other way 'round. Requiring her to make amends (if that is actually what happened) seems to me to be blame-shifting.