RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 16, 2018 at 2:42 pm
(This post was last modified: January 16, 2018 at 2:42 pm by henryp.)
(January 16, 2018 at 2:32 pm)Shell B Wrote:(January 16, 2018 at 2:23 pm)wallym Wrote: Maybe things that are 'creepy as hell' should be considered unacceptable?
They are, just not on the same level as assault. They're unacceptable in the same way that a lot of other relationship-related things are unacceptable. You walk away with an icky feeling and then move on with your life, never going back. It's the same way we express anything is unacceptable in a relationship. People have to define that for themselves, though. Another hyper-sexual woman might have loved that shit and come back for more.
I once had a guy kiss me super forcefully out of nowhere. I hated the guy. He had no cues that this was okay. I was super clear that it wasn't and never put myself in a situation where I was alone with him (even for five minutes on a porch at a friend's party, as this was). He didn't assault me. He grossed me the fuck out. Now he's presumably happily married. She's into his nasty ass. I'm not.
The problem with that, is if the guy is okay with being 'gross,' you can forcefully kiss whoever you want. Is there any incentive for the guy to behave accordingly? Or is it just 'the way things work. Sorry ladies, but gross fucks are going to jam their tongues in your mouth from time to time." Hell, he probably doesn't even think he's gross. Just thinks you're an uptight bitch, so he'll have no problem doing it again and again.
Again, that status quo works spectacular for gross guy, and women get, hopefully just figuratively, fucked over.