RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 18, 2018 at 1:58 pm
(This post was last modified: January 18, 2018 at 1:58 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
(January 18, 2018 at 1:43 pm)Tizheruk Wrote: Yes because asking someone if they want fuck while making out naked is such a task
We're not talking about making out. She gave the guy a blowjob... not a kiss on the lips. If you had to consent to give affirmative permission for every single sex act during sex "You may touch my knee now" "You may suck my tit now", "you may insert a finger now" . . . then sex would be impossible.
"Hey! I didn't tell you that you could keep your finger in there for 5 seconds! I just said you could put your finger in there!"
"But you didn't tell me to take it out!"
"But I didn't tell you you could keep it in!"
So basically as soon as a guy touches a woman he's already raped her because she didn't tell him that he could touch her for longer than a split second.
You can't literally spell out every single action for the guy. You can't expect the guy to be a mind reader.
Bottom line: Responsible sex is a responsibility for both people. Not just the person who initiates the sex. And if sex has already began consensual, then the other person is not a rapist because you had doubts and they didn't read your mind. Nor are they a rapist because you didn't spell out every single sexual action you wanted them to do before they did it.
Like seriously... "You may touch my knee now." "You may hold my hip now." "You may keep your penis inside me for the next 5 minutes unless I say stop." Does ANYONE have sex like that?