RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 18, 2018 at 3:16 pm
(This post was last modified: January 18, 2018 at 3:18 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
(January 18, 2018 at 3:12 pm)polymath257 Wrote:(January 18, 2018 at 3:07 pm)Hammy Wrote: Is it saying that what we call normal consensual sex is neither normal nor consensual?
I don't know what you consider to be normal and consensual. I usually try communication and clarity instead of pushing and coercion. For me, that is normal and consensual.
It actually is fairly easy most of the time: don't make assumptions, go slow enough that you can get proper feedback, ask if unsure, etc.
Mixed signals can still happen, but being nice instead of a jerk goes along, long way.
I'm always on the insanely cautious side. But if a woman grabs my dick I'm not going to ask something like "Am I allowed to touch your body too?"
I consider normal consensual sex to be normal consensual sex. If two people are having passionate sex... all spontaneously... then spontaneous sexual movements that weren't agreed upon beforehand isn't rape. Missing vague signals isn't rape. Ignoring verbal demands to stop all sexual contact is rape.
In fact, having it agreed to upon beforehand is far more rapey.