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Relationships - Christian and non-Christian way
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Relationships - Christian and non-Christian way
August 21, 2012 at 9:22 am (This post was last modified: August 21, 2012 at 9:38 am by Ciel_Rouge.)
I am "transplanting" content from another place because I believe the whole issue deserves a separate thread.

(August 21, 2012 at 6:39 am)Hoptoad Wrote: Self sacrifice is necessary in any relationship personal or not, no one will put up long with a totally selfish sod.

Or is it really? Let me give you a nice example from real life. Recently I heard a girl saying her boyfriend made her watch a lot of westerns even though she hates them and prefers comedies. Instead of the silly sacrifice they could have simply watched the films they like in solitude and only watch together when they both like a film? For me this is the difference between the Christian idea of relationships and a more natural attitude. It seems to me that in Christianity people just torture each other instead of mutual inspiration. Christianity always tends to forcefully "meld" people and repress the woman instead of respecting the individuality of both and using the relationship to enhance lives instead of reducing them.

It is basically the difference between: "torture the woman" and "enjoy each other".
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RE: Relationships - Christian and non-Christian way
August 21, 2012 at 10:46 am
You have obviously never been married. I've heard that the Hebrew word for "marriage" actually translates to "doing a bunch of shit you don't want to do."

In all seriousness though, relationships may not require self-sacrifice, but the good ones will have it.
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RE: Relationships - Christian and non-Christian way
August 21, 2012 at 10:50 am
(August 21, 2012 at 10:46 am)Faith No More Wrote: In all seriousness though, relationships may not require self-sacrifice, but the good ones will have it.

Well, for the men anyway...Dodgy
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RE: Relationships - Christian and non-Christian way
August 21, 2012 at 11:00 am
frankiej Wrote:Well, for the men anyway...

I don't know...I'm sure if you asked my wife she would say putting up with my shit is quite the self-sacrifice.
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RE: Relationships - Christian and non-Christian way
August 21, 2012 at 12:34 pm
My wife and I have been married for 40 years and we almost never watch tv together. When we do the dog is delighted....she can be with both of us.
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RE: Relationships - Christian and non-Christian way
August 21, 2012 at 12:47 pm
(August 21, 2012 at 9:22 am)Ciel_Rouge Wrote: Or is it really? Let me give you a nice example from real life. Recently I heard a girl saying her boyfriend made her watch a lot of westerns even though she hates them and prefers comedies. Instead of the silly sacrifice they could have simply watched the films they like in solitude and only watch together when they both like a film? For me this is the difference between the Christian idea of relationships and a more natural attitude. It seems to me that in Christianity people just torture each other instead of mutual inspiration. Christianity always tends to forcefully "meld" people and repress the woman instead of respecting the individuality of both and using the relationship to enhance lives instead of reducing them.

It is basically the difference between: "torture the woman" and "enjoy each other".

Should've watched comedy westerns like "support your local sheriff"



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RE: Relationships - Christian and non-Christian way
August 21, 2012 at 12:57 pm
(August 21, 2012 at 11:00 am)Faith No More Wrote:
frankiej Wrote:Well, for the men anyway...

I don't know...I'm sure if you asked my wife she would say putting up with my shit is quite the self-sacrifice.

Fine! Go ahead and ruin my joke... you and your wife being nice people spoils everything!

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