Do you believe in cheating?

[thesummerqueen]

First of all, the title IS dumb. I don't believe in cheating, I know that the act of cheating exists.

Now, forget the sexual/reproduction part of it for a second.

When you enter into a relationship with someone - particularly a monogamous relationship where both of you are living together and probably married, you are agreeing to spend a certain amount of time, energy, and money/resources on each other. It's much like a work contract where you get hired and the company agrees to pay you for the time and energy you put into the company. Cheating in the sense of a relationship is rather like being caught out at fooling around at work - you will be assumed to be 'wasting' the resources being invested into you. It's a break of trust, as no one and no company wants to feel like the time and resources they give to someone else are wasted, and by extension unappreciated.

I think it is wrong because of this.

Some people have arrangements with relationships to either have open marriages or open committed relationships, with the understanding that the partner will be honest, safe, and not let these other commitments infringe upon their major commitment. Those are fine too. The key is communication and honesty. I know from experience that those people and their spouses or partners do not consider it 'cheating'. 'Cheating' implies a break of trust/rules. If trust is there and the person is free to do what he or she chooses within whatever strictures of that relationship they hold, it's not cheating.

If you wouldn't cheat, then I'm not exactly sure why you asked this stupid question.

[dazzn]

First of all, the title IS dumb. I don't believe in cheating, I know that the act of cheating exists.

Now, forget the sexual/reproduction part of it for a second.

When you enter into a relationship with someone - particularly a monogamous relationship where both of you are living together and probably married, you are agreeing to spend a certain amount of time, energy, and money/resources on each other. It's much like a work contract where you get hired and the company agrees to pay you for the time and energy you put into the company. Cheating in the sense of a relationship is rather like being caught out at fooling around at work - you will be assumed to be 'wasting' the resources being invested into you. It's a break of trust, as no one and no company wants to feel like the time and resources they give to someone else are wasted, and by extension unappreciated.

I think it is wrong because of this.

Some people have arrangements with relationships to either have open marriages or open committed relationships, with the understanding that the partner will be honest, safe, and not let these other commitments infringe upon their major commitment. Those are fine too. The key is communication and honesty. I know from experience that those people and their spouses or partners do not consider it 'cheating'. 'Cheating' implies a break of trust/rules. If trust is there and the person is free to do what he or she chooses within whatever strictures of that relationship they hold, it's not cheating.

If you wouldn't cheat, then I'm not exactly sure why you asked this stupid question.

Fuck trust. If people cheat, it's their own business. Maybe they WISHED to lie? Hmm..? Who are you to cite otherwise?

[Jackalope]

I'm not exactly sure why you asked this stupid question.

Here's a hint for you, Summer.

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[Something completely different]

Fuck trust. If people cheat, it's their own business. Maybe they WISHED to lie? Hmm..? Who are you to cite otherwise?

Trust fucking. If buisness cheat, it's it`s own people. Maybe they lied to wish? Hmm..? Who cites you to are otherwise?

Cite fucking. If lied otherwise, it's it`s maybe people. Own they lied to wish? Hmm..? Who buisness you to are cheat?



makes as much sence as the original.

[thesummerqueen]

You weren't talking about whether or not it was anybody's business, jerk, you were asking why it mattered. I explained why. But I tend to agree with the Old One and say that you're a troll, based on your other activity here.

[dazzn]

I'm saying I disagree with you, concerning why it matters.

[NoraBrimstone]

Cheating on someone is fantastic fun when they deserve it.

[Whateverist]

I'm saying I disagree with you, concerning why it matters.

Who the fuck are you to disagree with her? What makes what you think so damn privileged? You're idiot, everybody knows that, right?

[dazzn]

I'm saying I disagree with you, concerning why it matters.

Who the fuck are you to disagree with her? What makes what you think so damn privileged? You're idiot, everybody knows that, right?

Disagreement is part of life.

[Kayenneh]

Cheating on someone is fantastic fun when they deserve it.

Oooh, you're evil!