Damn my libido!

[Rahul]

Sometimes persistence works. Keep giving your favorite ones repeated chances to turn you down.

I've personally seen this work for a guy before.

[Walking Void]

Smile *maliciously* at people for no reason. Boom, instant sexitude.

[pineapplebunnybounce]

So what have you got to lose to persist?

I don't want to stalk them. I don't want to be creepy. No means no and they keep saying no even when I only asked once and so they only needed to say it once. I reply saying "I know you don't like me, you've told me. Once is enough, you don't have to keep saying it".

Don't keep asking in different ways, repeatedly, instead, make special efforts to make her happy, that's a nonpushy way of "asking again", then after a bit of that, ask again. I have a friend who won't go out with a guy until he's jumped through a whole set of hoops, but a guy managed even after she said no, he just kept consistently doing little special things.

Girls are people, too. And we like to be with guys who are nice people. If you stick around and continue to be nice after being rejected, she may very well change her mind because you're giving her something else to evaluate. Just like your opinion of someone changes as you get to know them better, girls' opinions of you will change over time based on what you do.

Asking repeatedly without any action never works (well .... it does with some people, but it's annoying), so it's good you don't do that.

[Terr]

I still say don't stress too much. I don't relate well to many people myself, but there is always that someone on the same wavelength. They surprise me everytime they come along, not often, but it will happen lad. By all means get out there more, but socially, not with a goal in mind.

Also, your libido isn't the problem, it's not going anywhere, anytime soon. Sex will sate it, but it will be back, sooner than you might think.

[Edwardo Piet]

make special efforts to make her happy, that's a nonpushy way of "asking again"

I don't make girls happy though. I bore them; any "special" efforts usually cost money and I don't have money.

Besides, if I can't make friends happy how can I make girls happy?

I have a friend who won't go out with a guy until he's jumped through a whole set of hoops, but a guy managed even after she said no, he just kept consistently doing little special things.

Girls are people, too.

That's exactly how I treat them. I think that might even be part of the problem though, I'm seen as "just a friend".

And we like to be with guys who are nice people.

If you stick around and continue to be nice after being rejected, she may very well change her mind because you're giving her something else to evaluate.

Am doing. Girls are a friend first and anything else second to me. I am nice regardless of rejection, but either way I seem to get nowhere.

Asking repeatedly without any action never works (well .... it does with some people, but it's annoying), so it's good you don't do that.

Thank you.

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There are 3 billion women in the world. You only need one that works for you.

It's taking me this long to get the first one, which won't last.

[Crossless2.0]

This isn't a hopeless situation. OK, you've made no headway with the women you're attracted to. They just consider you a friend. Well, as friends, perhaps they have other friends you haven't met who would be interested in you. It can't hurt to ask. Maybe they can help with introductions and breaking the ice.

[Violet]

You just have to get your first over with. After that it'll be much easier for you.

Post an ad on Craigslist or some similar site saying you need a woman to take your virginity. That should draw a response.

Probably not the kind of person he'd want to give him that response, though

[Edwardo Piet]

Well, as friends, perhaps they have other friends you haven't met who would be interested in you. It can't hurt to ask. Maybe they can help with introductions and breaking the ice.

Friends but not close friends. I have no close friends.

I have no friends who ever introduce their other friends to me unless they have to.

[Terr]

Counselling, of some form, PLEASE. Losing you virginity before learning to make friends makes this post trollish...

[Walking Void]

Hal, You need to hang out with me to get started on your problems (but not the sex), but I live in Canada.