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RE: What's everyone up to right now?
July 11, 2017 at 4:56 pm
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(July 10, 2017 at 3:10 pm)vorlon13 Wrote: had a nice chat with a relative 'in the know' about some family history and am up to speed on some mysteries in the family closet
Yes, one of my cousins had a baby in the 60s, sans marriage. I had already figured that out. What I didn't know was the kid was a healthy girl and adopted by a couple I knew from town.
As for repercussions, probably best outcome for the kid, my cuz was pretty young, marriage to the guy wasn't an option, and the 'family' absolutely positively was not going to let her raise her daughter as a single mother period. This was pre Roe v Wade too, so that wasn't going to come up either. Kid definitely wasn't fathered by guy she eventually married, either. And, yeah, he knows all about this. And then my angle, my cuz is a pretty bad alcoholic. She's never had much luck with rehab, so her husband's solution is constant supervision. She leads her life under continuous intervention by family. She works at her husbands business, they ride to and from work together, staff is aware of situation and under pain of apparently literal death, they cooperate with The Plan.
Now, is her status worse from what happened in the 60s? Yeah probably, but she married someone with the strength of will to make things work out the way they did.
I'm aware of non 12 Stepper 'authorized' recoveries, and this actually isn't the only 'continuous supervision' case I'm aware of. Any port in a storm I guess.
The one big thing I don't know is if her subsequent kids know about their older 1/2 sister. I'm assuming they don't, just since my life will be easier that way.
BTW, she's not abused beyond being denied access to alcohol 24/7/365, and there have been some memorable slips, usually family gatherings when she manages to snag a beverage she shouldn't. I consider her hubby a saint, not sure I would put up with that kind of involvement to keep someone from drinking themselves to death, but the situation has persisted for decades, and who am I to squawk ?
Maybe being forced to give up her daughter drove her to alcoholism?
Although that one is pretty big, a lot of families have little "scandals" under wraps tbh. For all my grandparents tried to keep up the pretense of being good obedient Catholics, it suddenly dawned on my Dad on his 26th birthday that they'd only just had their 25th wedding anniversary. He was born in the 60s too actually.
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RE: What's everyone up to right now?
July 11, 2017 at 6:28 pm
Knowing family history (father and brother) her alcoholism was probably in the cards. Giving up a daughter certainly didn't help, but I wouldn't attribute it as a 'cause'.
Her husband is a gem, not too many men would have put up with what he has and still be with her. If not for him and his vigilance, she would have died of cirrhosis many years ago.
Her brother is 'famous' for being dumped by first wife for his unrepentant alcoholism and then he married into a family that is demonstrably worse in that regard, and now he is the 'responsible' adult of that tribe.
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RE: What's everyone up to right now?
July 11, 2017 at 7:36 pm
Reading an incident case on the Wikipedia admin's noticeboard.
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RE: What's everyone up to right now?
July 11, 2017 at 11:43 pm
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RE: What's everyone up to right now?
July 12, 2017 at 11:43 am
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RE: What's everyone up to right now?
July 12, 2017 at 12:13 pm
Listening to the Beiber-less Despacito and chatting on Slack/reading the forums.
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RE: What's everyone up to right now?
July 12, 2017 at 1:01 pm
Sitting here. That and going to the hospital has been all I've done for a week, as I fell off the stairs and broke my foot. Crutches effing suck.
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RE: What's everyone up to right now?
July 12, 2017 at 1:11 pm
(July 12, 2017 at 1:01 pm)rexbeccarox Wrote: Sitting here. That and going to the hospital has been all I've done for a week, as I fell off the stairs and broke my foot. Crutches effing suck.
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RE: What's everyone up to right now?
July 12, 2017 at 1:55 pm
I am at Wildwood New Jersey beach with my kids until tomorrow.
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RE: What's everyone up to right now?
July 12, 2017 at 2:00 pm
Oh... today, the beach was awesome here on Europe's West coast.
(the ocean looks farther than it really was.... for real!)
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and eating Ramen Noodles 
