Atheist sexuality

[freedomfromforum]

I don't make sex noises. I'm very quiet. I'm working on it because I realize that people need feedback.

Feedback is necessary if you want a particular technique/action to persist

[Zazzy]

I don't make sex noises. I'm very quiet. I'm working on it because I realize that people need feedback.

Me, too! I get VERY quiet before and during orgasm, until the back spasms, when I say "ow." It has weirded some lovers out. It just feels strange to "fake it" by adding noise when I don't want to make any damned noise. And I've always had back spasms from orgasm, and it always hurts a little.

Probably TMI, and definitely off-topic, but I'm wondering about wet dreams. I always thought they were for men, and then I turned 40 and for the past couple of years I've been pretty consistently having a rocking good sleep sex life. Do other women experience this? Do men continue to experience it, or start experiencing more often later? I realize that I'm in those fabled years of cougardom, but I never expected to be doing it all by myself so well without even meaning to.

[freedomfromforum]

I don't make sex noises. I'm very quiet. I'm working on it because I realize that people need feedback.

Me, too! I get VERY quiet before and during orgasm, until the back spasms, when I say "ow." It has weirded some lovers out. It just feels strange to "fake it" by adding noise when I don't want to make any damned noise. And I've always had back spasms from orgasm, and it always hurts a little.

Probably TMI, and definitely off-topic, but I'm wondering about wet dreams. I always thought they were for men, and then I turned 40 and for the past couple of years I've been pretty consistently having a rocking good sleep sex life. Do other women experience this? Do men continue to experience it, or start experiencing more often later? I realize that I'm in those fabled years of cougardom, but I never expected to be doing it all by myself so well without even meaning to.

[Zazzy]

It's unlike you to be so unhelpful with genuine questions, FFF (insert reproachful looking emoticon here). I want to know about others' experiences. It's something I never thought about until it started happening to me.

[thesummerqueen]

Probably TMI, and definitely off-topic, but I'm wondering about wet dreams. I always thought they were for men, and then I turned 40 and for the past couple of years I've been pretty consistently having a rocking good sleep sex life. Do other women experience this? Do men continue to experience it, or start experiencing more often later? I realize that I'm in those fabled years of cougardom, but I never expected to be doing it all by myself so well without even meaning to.

Age thing? Not being funny about that - I've had some older female friends tell me all sorts of weird shit their docs ascribed to fluctuating hormones from aging.

I have really vivid dreams, so my sex dreams are always pretty rockin', but never a wet dream.

[CleanShavenJesus]

It's unlike you to be so unhelpful with genuine questions, FFF (insert reproachful looking emoticon here). I want to know about others' experiences. It's something I never thought about until it started happening to me.

I'm also a poor example because I never experienced wet dreams even in my younger years.

I'm sure a Google search would suffice for this topic, though.

[Zazzy]

Age thing? Not being funny about that - I've had some older female friends tell me all sorts of weird shit their docs ascribed to fluctuating hormones from aging.

I think so. My doctor was amused when I asked her about it, and since it isn't a problem (the opposite), she chalked it up to good luck.

I have really vivid dreams, so my sex dreams are always pretty rockin', but never a wet dream.

No, these are the real deal. I wake up in the middle of a genuine orgasm. It happens a couple of times a week now. It's great, but it's sort of impeding my waking sex life since I'm the major instigator, and I don't need it so much now in real life- good but also bad.

[My imaginary friend is GOD]

I don't make sex noises. I'm very quiet. I'm working on it because I realize that people need feedback.

Me, too! I get VERY quiet before and during orgasm, until the back spasms, when I say "ow." It has weirded some lovers out. It just feels strange to "fake it" by adding noise when I don't want to make any damned noise. And I've always had back spasms from orgasm, and it always hurts a little.

Probably TMI, and definitely off-topic, but I'm wondering about wet dreams. I always thought they were for men, and then I turned 40 and for the past couple of years I've been pretty consistently having a rocking good sleep sex life. Do other women experience this? Do men continue to experience it, or start experiencing more often later? I realize that I'm in those fabled years of cougardom, but I never expected to be doing it all by myself so well without even meaning to.

I have lots of sexual dreams but lately I wake up right when it starts getting good.

[*Deidre*]

@ summer, in a word "yes." I'm in my 30's and I can attest to "sexy dreams."
My dreams are usually though not completely sexual, but more that I'm looking for secluded places to have sex, and can't find one. The frustration builds and builds, and then?

I wake up.

Why this is arousing, don't know. Hormones are odd.

[thesummerqueen]

Well, I'm 28, so I'm not far behind, but I've ALWAYS had vivid dreams, so even as a teenager, sex dreams or even just dreams about kissing or whatever were always equally vivid. I haven't noticed an increase in them or anything.