Exercising w/ The woman

[SteelCurtain]

That's tough.

I've never been in your shoes relationship-wise, but I have been in a job/lifestyle where I had to manufacture time to stay in shape/do hobbies. I had to sacrifice sleep time, sacrifice TV time, etc. in order to do all the things that were more important, like time with my girl, working out, and my animal rescue work. It may be one of the hardest lifestyle changes I've ever had to make. Cause I love sleep and sleep almost more than anything...

[wolf39us]

Haha no she is not over weight. She's 125lbs at 5'5

[Mystical]

have you tried getting her to do something other than cycling? I like going to the Y and working out there, thenhitting the showers and finishing my workout in the lap pool. Honestly I wouldn't want to go all out ninja workout with my boyfriend unless I was super comfortable with him seeing me all red faced hot and sweaty. Most my friends just like to workout together and let their men enjoy the final cut. But that doesn't mean you can't do things with her that she'd enjoy. Off the top of my head (I'm not lazy I'm chronically ill) there's things I feel comfortable doing like going and walking around the mall, taking a nature hike starting with a small loop and working up to the bigger ones, going to a fair or hitting up festivals, playing laser tag (I have kids to do this all with but a bf/gf could have fun too!), etc. See if she knows how to Rollerblade? Maybe she just hates cycling. Or maybe when you did take her, she felt trapped into a huge cycling ordeal. See if she'll take a loop she knows to be short and sweet?

That's all I got Morgan covered most everything!

[wolf39us]

I tried Rollerblading with her as well, she prefers cycling LOL

Anyways... according to her she just doesn't feel comfortable near our area which is fine. We are moving next month and will be right next to a huge paved trail (The Pinellas Trail) 42mi of awesome!

[Mystical]

that's funny I'd Rollerblade over cycling anyday

Do you not have the ability to go to differing trails then?

[Angrboda]

Sports and activities tend to be very individualistic. If you find something that excites and interests you both, you'd be lucky. I imagine it doesn't happen a lot unless one partner sacrifices for the other, which is really shitty. And as you get older, it just gets harder. When I was in my teens and twenties, I did all sorts of stuff. Now you need a winch to haul me out of my chair. I did Tai Chi for several years and found that worked well for me, even though I don't like stuff with a high woo factor, which Tai Chi can attract. I suggest you try to satisfy yourself and not try for the hat trick of you, her, and the same sport. You might consider longer rides, centuries and such, that way you can get more in a shorter time, and so you don't end up using as many of your days together. Have you considered commuting via bike? I commuted via bike one year, including in 30 below weather and loved it. But it helped that the place I worked had on-site showers. You may have to finagle it a bit, depending on circumstances. If you can't commute straight back and forth to work, commute to and from a mass transit center, or a buddy's home where you can carpool; and if you don't have showers on-site, see if there is someplace nearby that does where you can work out arrangements with them. Also, get involved; find a cycling or bike repair group you can join. Your S.O. doesn't have to be the sole motivator. Even if you just join an online cycling forum, it will help with motivation, technique, and suggestions.

[Assimilate]

I use to be that significant other and my girlfriend was a workout machine. I now work out 5 days a week, and we would work out together, i use past tense cause she has a knee complication thats sidelined her for the past couple of months. Anyways, the only way your gonna get her into it is if you find something she'll enjoy doing, hopefully she turns on to it.

[Mystical]

everytime I read this thread title, in my head it reads "Exercising the woman"

I've been hangin around fundies way too long