Atheist vs. Christian Personalities

[Anomalocaris]

There is something that has been bothering me lately. The other day I had a drink with a friend of mine who is what I would call very christian. She doesn't talk about it much, but she is. You notice it in the way she acts and speaks, sometimes.
It struck me that she is a very nice person to be around. If I could select a personality to have, her's would clearly be nominated. In fact most christians I know are somewhat similar to her.
Now contrast her with the people I know who identify as atheists or 'anti-theists' as some would call them. (I would prefer the term 'anti-religious')
Quirky, narcissistic, poor listener, beligerent about everything, odd (in a bad way) false/poor self image, constantly pessimistic, rude, inconsiderate, selfish or just simply crazy...
Most of them are some or all of the above. I have my reasons for liking them and having them as friends, but I can't deny the negative feelings I get sometimes.
I'm not talking about people who don't give a damned about religion one way or another... I mean people who really care about the issue.
Now I'm not saying that all the christians I know are nice people. One is in fact a huge asshole who I dislike intensely.
Is there a trend here, or am I imagining things?

Comformists do tend to be more pleasing to be around when you yourself is not exactly in the mood for a sharp intellectual challenge.

But the world doesn't progress and improve through conformity.

[LivingNumbers6.626]

That's an interesting question, I can't be entirely sure, but I don't think there is such a black and white trend, I think both sides are the same, just like any sect. There's good people and bad people every where.

I for one can admit that for the past four weeks I have been an asshole atheist. I have no excuse for it, but it is due to my inability to let go. I hold grudges. And as I left the Church, my parents and aunt treated me like shit...and it was during Thanksgiving and Christmas too. Then there are all the friends from church who had entirely abandoned my wife and I except for one woman who basically thinks Satan has got us. Then my birthday past and no one from the church contacted me or sent me a card like they usually do. Then there's all the shit in the new year of 2014 that happened between my Dad and I, and I've been holding a grudge. Then there was the year and I half of mental abuse by my church leader that led me to go to a mental hospital. Plus the fact that I've been lied to my whole life really pisses me off.

All these experiences and more have really taken a grip on me. I'm usually not as hostile or aggressive. I'm actually a huge push over but lately I had gotten fed up. There's no excuse for my recent hatred, but there is a reason to my douche baggy-ness, just like many other atheists.

But I would have to agree that a lot of us angry atheists can go the extra mile and be better than those believers that have hurt us. That is what I'm trying to do now. I'm placing myself in a position for full recovery, where I plan to return to my well tempered self and start doing some good in the world.