Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past

[Iroscato]

Trust is a key word here. She trusted you enough to let you in on that. Do not take that trust lightly. If you really are that uptight and icky about sex, let her go. It seems apparent that you have some growing up to do.

[Chad32]

I'd probably get tested if I were you, and ask her if she'd gotten tested recently. As long as you're both clean, it should be fine. She picked you, and hopefully has stayed faithful to you for three years. This is something that probably should have come up before now, but until you put a ring on it you can break up without too many problems. Sex is a thing that happens. It's normal, especially for teens and young adults. There are risks involved, but there are risks involved with just about everything in life. It's part of living.

[Iroscato]

To dip into my red-blooded male mode for a moment, and without wanting to sound pigheaded (sorry if I come across that way), but she's open to anal, threesomes and experimenting bisexually. She's also done something porn-ish.
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Do you have ANY idea how hard you've hit the jackpot there, son? If I were you I'd be drawing up on a fucking whiteboard a comprehensive list of perverse deeds to try with her, getting feedback on what she's up for, then working our way through each item every week. But instead, you whine about her sexual past on a forum. My god man. Go nuts already, will ya?!? Experiment, have fun, enjoy yourselves, rediscover each other in new and increasingly kinky ways! Go brother, make with all haste, and earn your man stripes!!!
Phew, I'm done. Sorry about that folks.

[robvalue]

It's a good point, three years is a long time. Longer than most marriages nowadays, it seems. I think the only relationship I've been in that lasted that long is my current and final one.

[Kitty Galore]

Seriously dude? Three years and you never had this conversation and it is THAT important to you? Please dump her and learn how to get to know someone before you EVER get in another relationship. I can't believe you.. my mind is full of fuck right now. 

[Exian]

*high fives CD*

[polar bear]

Personally, when I had the same talk with my wife (before we were married) I was excited that she new more than just the missionary position and that she didn't think sex was "naughty".  You are lucky to have a women in touch with her sexual side...maybe you should be as well...IMO

Oh and welcome to the forum, I obviously missed your kind introduction

[Nope]

The number of sexual partners a person has had doesn't say anything about their sense of empathy or intelligence. If you can't get beyond her past then break up with her so she can find someone else.

I am curious why this bothers you so much? What values do you believe that she doesn't share with you now?

[Cato]

If you introduce me you won't have to worry about it very much longer.

[Nope]

I'm a firm believer that her sexual history has a lot to do with the ability to pair bond (or should I say, the inability), and I have seen enough evidence of this with my friends and their girlfriends to confirm it.

I don't know about your friends but my husband and I have been married for 26 years. We were both experienced when we met. Our pair bond has obviously worked well.