Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?

[Excited Penguin]

Actually a gay person once called me the most beautiful man they had ever seen, just like that, out of the blue. I suppose I was being hit on? Idk.

[Chad32]

I'd be flattered if anyone said they fancied me, and have even had older women flirt with me a little. I like attention as much as the next guy. If he offered to buy me dinner, he can say whatever he wants. I'm just not going home with him.

[Longhorn]

Actually a gay person once called me the most beautiful man they had ever seen, just like that, out of the blue. I suppose I was being hit on? Idk.

Nah, that means he psychotically hates you and likes to burn voodoo dolls that look like you


.....yes, I'd say he was probably hitting on you

[emjay]

I'd be flattered if a gay man said that he fancied me.  But I would feel quite differently if he did not take "no" for an answer with something along the lines of Rev. Rye's experiences occurring.

The only time that a gay man propositioned me was a total stranger.  People who know me somehow know I am not gay.  Not having good gaydar myself, I am not sure how it is that people know such things, but people who know me at all always know I am not gay.  So I am not offended at all that gay men who know me do not say they fancy me.  What would be the point of them saying such a thing when they know it isn't going anywhere?

Now, if a lesbian said she fancied me, I would really be flattered.  (Of course, that happening at all would suggest that she is really bisexual, not a lesbian.)  It still would not go anywhere, as I am happily married and intend to stay that way.  Still, lesbians have said that they liked me (in a platonic way), and I am pleased about that.  It is the most one can reasonably expect.

I feel kind of awkward talking about this now after Rev Rye shared his experience. If people don't take no for an answer then it becomes harassment, or worse. I know what that's like because I have had three people obsessed with me and one of them still sends me friend requests on Facebook from time to time to which I keep declining. I could block him but I don't want to antagonize him - rather just let him assume in his deluded thinking that I missed his request. Maybe he'll get the message one day. What I was really talking about was just flirting among friends, not strangers, and as I said, only if they're game.

[emjay]

I'm bi. So like, whatever

Are you male or female? I've always assumed female by the way you talk (and the prevalence of 's ) but then at one time you had a really cute, male, avatar pic - the guy smoking something.

[Crossless2.0]

It's happened to me (at least back in the late Middle Ages during my younger years). I was flattered, told the people who flirted with me that I was flattered, but politely declined since I'm straight. I don't understand people who get bent out of shape over such things. Sexual insecurity is a bitch. Most people should be grateful that anyone thinks enough of them to flirt.

[The Valkyrie]

Wouldn't bother me one way or the other.

In fact, when I was a student, my room mate and I would pretend to be together when we went out on a Friday night for drinks to stop guys hitting on us constantly.

[emjay]

I'd be flattered if anyone said they fancied me, and have even had older women flirt with me a little. I like attention as much as the next guy. If he offered to buy me dinner, he can say whatever he wants. I'm just not going home with him.

I'm not talking about propositioning people - I don't do that - I just mean as a laugh between friends. Once an old lady at a car boot sale called me 'incredibly handsome'. Now that was awkward and I really didn't know how to respond.

[Chad32]

If it's just a compliment, then I'd take it as that. A compliment.

[Pyrrho]

I'd be flattered if a gay man said that he fancied me.  But I would feel quite differently if he did not take "no" for an answer with something along the lines of Rev. Rye's experiences occurring.

The only time that a gay man propositioned me was a total stranger.  People who know me somehow know I am not gay.  Not having good gaydar myself, I am not sure how it is that people know such things, but people who know me at all always know I am not gay.  So I am not offended at all that gay men who know me do not say they fancy me.  What would be the point of them saying such a thing when they know it isn't going anywhere?

Now, if a lesbian said she fancied me, I would really be flattered.  (Of course, that happening at all would suggest that she is really bisexual, not a lesbian.)  It still would not go anywhere, as I am happily married and intend to stay that way.  Still, lesbians have said that they liked me (in a platonic way), and I am pleased about that.  It is the most one can reasonably expect.

I feel kind of awkward talking about this now after Rev Rye shared his experience. If people don't take no for an answer then it becomes harassment, or worse. I know what that's like because I have had three people obsessed with me and one of them still sends me friend requests on Facebook from time to time to which I keep declining. I could block him but I don't want to antagonize him - rather just let him assume in his deluded thinking that I missed his request. Maybe he'll get the message one day. What I was really talking about was just flirting among friends, not strangers, and as I said, only if they're game.

Well, I never flirt with gay men.  The only men I ever "flirt" with are friends and acquaintances who are a little bit homophobic, and then it is to make them squirm a bit and try to get them to see how silly they are being.