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The Secual Experience for Men
July 26, 2015 at 5:32 pm
I was just listening to an old song called Reasons by the group Earth Wind and Fire. The words are very interesting because they deal with a man’s experience right after sex. I think it may have to do with the way a man’s brain is compartmentalized so that they are actually in a different mode while having sex and afterward a totally different part of their brain takes over.
Is this true for you. Do the words to this song resonate?
Reasons
Now I’m craving your body
Is this real
Temperatures rising
I don’t want to feel
I’m in the wrong place to be real
Oh, and I’m longing to love you just for the night
Kissing and hugging and holding you tight
Please let me love you with all my might
The reasons
The reasons that we’re here
The reasons that we fear
My feelings won’t disappear
And after the love games have been played
All our illusions are just a parade
And all the reasons start to fade
And in the morning when I rise
No longer feeling hypnotized
Find the reasons have no pride
After all the reasons why
All the reasons were a lie
Oh yeah love was bound to die
Ooh baby
I can’t find the reasons
Why my love won’t disappear
T can’t find the reasons
Why I love you baby my dear
Can’t find the reasons
Wanna love you all night
Can’t find the reasons
Gotta squeeze ya real tight
Can’t find the reason
Baby, for my tears
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RE: The Secual Experience for Men
July 26, 2015 at 5:49 pm
I think this was truer for me when I was younger. There's definitely still a primal animal type thing going on, but I'm much less ashamed of that other guy afterwards haha.
I can't remember where this verse is from, I think it got removed from canon:
"I don't hang around with mostly men because I'm gay. It's because men are better than women. Better trained, better equipped...better. Just better! I'm not gay."
For context, this is the previous verse:
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RE: The Secual Experience for Men
July 26, 2015 at 6:36 pm
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RE: The Secual Experience for Men
July 26, 2015 at 6:51 pm
I think this guy nails it.
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RE: The Secual Experience for Men
July 26, 2015 at 7:26 pm
I love EWF.
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RE: The Secual Experience for Men
July 27, 2015 at 3:55 am
(This post was last modified: July 27, 2015 at 3:57 am by robvalue.)
I actually feel a jarring switch way more when I masturbate. One moment I'm filled with sexual drive, excited, unable to contain myself any more... Then I feel utterly ridiculous, whatever pornography I have seems bizarre. I know I haven't done anything wrong, but I feel rather "pathetic" for indulging my primal urges.
After sex with someone I love, it is very different. I feel a sense of satisfaction. A kind of warm glow, and I bask in the love of my partner. I don't feel pathetic at all, but rather that I've been a part of something beautiful. Of course all the sexual drive falls from me instantly, but it does not seem jarring, and it's what it gets replaced with that is very different.
I've not had sex with anyone I didn't love (or at least thought I loved) so I can't comment on that.
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RE: The Secual Experience for Men
July 27, 2015 at 8:19 am
I think that our culture has a lot to do with how either gender responds to sex and love.
Perhaps the younger me was just very weird but I would have been perfectly happy with a fuck buddy. You would think that would have been easy to find. No. It wasn't. Either the relationship ended up weird and the man suddenly loved me or the guy talked badly about me afterwards. It didn't matter how close the friendship before hand, for some weird reason, I couldn't get the friends with benefits thing to work. I think that part of the problem was that in the 80's men were taught that a 'slutty' woman wasn't worth respect so if you were a woman who was open about wanting sex without any emotion, that must mean that you had something wrong with you.
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RE: The Secual Experience for Men
July 27, 2015 at 8:25 am
I certainly don't think there's anything wrong with unemotional sex, as long as both parties are aware of this. It's not for me personally, but I can fully understand why some people would like it. Maybe if anyone was actually attracted to me when I was younger I'd have had a period like that though! Hard to tell.
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RE: The Secual Experience for Men
July 27, 2015 at 10:44 am
I wonder if my feelings following masturbation are linked to my childhood. It was always treated in a very shameful way. Not healthy at all. I'd never thought about that before. I reckon I'm onto something.
