To spank or not to spank?

[Losty]

LOL.  Step number one is to whisk them way from the situation - though I have been known to slap a hand pretty damned hard in a scenario like that, right at the moment.  A whole laundry list of things need to go wrong before spanking comes up on daddy's process flow chart of parenting.  One of those things is the effectiveness of explanation.  If that worked, then why would I spank them, and why would they have persisted in the behavior......eh?

Imagine the most ridiculous possible scenario - and that's our starting point for discussion, is that how this is going to go?  

It is very confusing for my libido when you refer to yourself as daddy in this context...just saying

[BrokenQuill92]

LOL.  Step number one is to whisk them way from the situation - though I have been known to slap a hand pretty damned hard in a scenario like that, right at the moment.  A whole laundry list of things need to go wrong before spanking comes up on daddy's process flow chart of parenting.  One of those things is the effectiveness of explanation.  If that worked, then why would I spank them, and why would they have persisted in the behavior......eh?

Imagine the most ridiculous possible scenario - and that's our starting point for discussion, is that how this is going to go?  

It is very confusing for my libido when you refer to yourself as daddy in this context...just saying

I could never understand the guys that like being called daddy during sex. That's just oedipal and creepy.

[Jenny A]

I don't want my future babies to turn out like this:
http://youtu.be/am4zWElpCIw

Somehow, I don't think you need to worry about that.  How much of the Maury Show do you think is real?

[Losty]

It is very confusing for my libido when you refer to yourself as daddy in this context...just saying

I could understand the guys that like being called daddy during sex. That's just oedipal and creepy.

What can I say, I must have daddy issues sorry to creep you out

[BrokenQuill92]

I don't want my future babies to turn out like this:
http://youtu.be/am4zWElpCIw

Somehow, I don't think you need to worry about that.  How much of the Maury Show do you think is real?

Maybe 25%. I don't really watch it but my mom loves it and those court shows.

[Whateverist]

Spouse - by mutual agreement

Dog - terrible idea

Kid - worse idea

[Losty]

Not trying to pick on you but I'm curious. Do you think there are occasions where it would be acceptable to spank a non-consenting adult who poses no physical threat to you?

Yes. Morons that scream at there partners in public are a good example.

We will just have to agree to disagree then. I've been in plenty of situations (as a child and an adult) where someone has decided that something I have done (or not done) warrants physical violence on their part. I have first hand experience with this anywhere from an open handed swat on the bottom to being hospitalized. When you look at someone and know that they feel so superior to you that they believe they are justified in hurting you to scare you into doing things their way, it's a very disgusting and dehumanizing feeling. No one should ever be made to feel that way, especially not a child.

[The Grand Nudger]

I don't think that doing it "my way" is a very good justification for a spank either.  Doing it "the way that won't yield death or maiming" otoh...is something I'm more sympathetic towards. Seeing the above, I'm not sure what threat might or might not be posed to me (or anyone who spanks for the reasons I would spank) would be relevant. It's not a threat to me that I'm concerned with, in that decision, but a threat to my child.

Little bastards haven't tried to kill me, yet....but I guess we'll just have to cross that bridge when we get there. They attempt to off themselves with -some- regularity, though. These are my kids, after all......

[Losty]

I'm not saying I think you're a horrible child abusing parent. I hardly know you and I can see that you love your kids. I know kids do stupid dangerous shit all the time. I have kids. But I think spanking is the wrong reaction. It's easy and it works sometimes, but I think it's cruel and unnecessary.

[Bob Kelso]

I was spanked as a child, and never feared my mother for it. I was beaten as a young and older teenager and both feared and hated my step-father. So my views will be found a bit odd I suspect.

When a child who is either beyond the age of reason or past it at the time is out of control a light swat on their backside can be a useful tool to get their attention. Anything outside of that is completely unwarranted in my opinion.