Understanding "Passive aggressive behavior"?

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Or manipulation. Or put down. Or exclusion.

There, I've just given you 3 more reasons for you to hate me. I hope you're happy. (hehe)

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Thank you violet that was very helpful.

So it's a kind of disingenuous, deceptive covert, indirect aggression or act of revenge, etc.

You got it... and this guy finishes it off:

Or manipulation. Or put down. Or exclusion.

There, I've just given you 3 more reasons for you to hate me. I hope you're happy. (hehe)

Way to go

Many people have passive aggressive qualities to them, just as many people have passive, or aggressive, or assertive qualities to their interactions with others... very rarely is any one person purely reliant upon any one 'form' of interaction.

It can be easily said that there's an effective time to use aggression, passivity, assertion, and passive aggression... a time and a place always when every communication/interaction style makes the most of a situation.

It can also be easily said that people can become too reliant on one or two types (examples: the woman who shifts between tempest and sarcastic, or the man who flops between being utterly withdrawn to hyperassertive and back again without warning) with little interaction other forms of interaction; causes an overuse of a given facet of interaction in situations that won't work out in favor of what they value in a given situation.

But... there are predators of all stripes. People can manipulate others with vulnerability, anger, and doubtlessness. People can put others down with dispassion, bitterness, and 'being too honest'. People can exclude others with disinterest, violence, and 'matter-of-fact'ness alike.

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Passive aggression gets its rep as 'the manipulator' from its sarcasm, its 'hidden' and indirect attempts to subvert another person, and its inclusionary (if-you-change-who-you-are) nature with its capacity for hazing.

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I think that's enough.

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All I know is that I am not passive aggressive. xD