The best way to dump your cheating girlfriend

[Alex K]

Yeah... you don't know joy until you have been publicly shamed on the internet...

Yes, that's exactly what I was insinuating wasn't it? Jackass.

What were you insinuating?

[GrandizerII]

I'm just not understanding the particularly part without you ascribing a certain amount of femininity or masculinity to various aspects.

I'll have to agree with Thena on this. While negative traits are unattractive regardless of who has them, there are some that are particularly repulsive on men and some that are particularly repulsive on woman. Being petty is particularly repulsive on men. Being cold hearted is particularly repulsive on woman. Just my opinion. I don't have a problem with acknowledging differences between masculinity and femininity... It is those differences that makes each sex unique and special.

Most of those differences are socially constructed. And cold-heartedness and pettiness should be considered repulsive on men and women.

[Losty]

I'm just not understanding the particularly part without you ascribing a certain amount of femininity or masculinity to various aspects.

I'll have to agree with Thena on this. While negative traits are unattractive regardless of who has them, there are some that are particularly repulsive on men and some that are particularly repulsive on woman. Being petty is particularly repulsive on men. Being cold hearted is particularly repulsive on woman. Just my opinion. I don't have a problem with acknowledging differences between masculinity and femininity... It is those differences that makes each sex unique and special.  

I disagree with the entirety of this post. Negative traits are negative. Positive traits are positive. Regardless of gender. I also have no problem recognizing the differences between masculinity or femininity. but these are just social constructs, they're ideas of how men or women should be and I think they're a load of cow crap to be honest. There's nothing about being soft and gentle and nuturing that's inherently womanly. There's nothing about being strong and whatever other "masculine" things there are that's inherently manly. People are different and genders aren't special. That's my opinion of course.

[Catholic_Lady]

I'll have to agree with Thena on this. While negative traits are unattractive regardless of who has them, there are some that are particularly repulsive on men and some that are particularly repulsive on woman. Being petty is particularly repulsive on men. Being cold hearted is particularly repulsive on woman. Just my opinion. I don't have a problem with acknowledging differences between masculinity and femininity... It is those differences that makes each sex unique and special.  

I disagree with the entirety of this post. Negative traits are negative. Positive traits are positive. Regardless of gender. I also have no problem recognizing the differences between masculinity or femininity. but these are just social constructs, they're ideas of how men or women should be and I think they're a load of cow crap to be honest. There's nothing about being soft and gentle and nuturing that's inherently womanly. There's nothing about being strong and whatever other "masculine" things there are that's inherently manly. People are different and genders aren't special. That's my opinion of course.

Yeah I know mine is not a popular opinion to have around here lol. But then again, most aren't.

[Edwardo Piet]

I hate how society expects certain genders to act certain ways... and I think that this often reinforces the stereotypical behaviors that excuses society and people in general to do so. It's a Catch 22 vicious circle. I couldn't agree more with Losty's post.... this is about ideas about how people think men and women should be, and it's just made up nonsense.

I hate the social pressures for men or women to be a stereoypical way. I hate the expectations about how we are supposed to be according to society.

[Losty]

I disagree with the entirety of this post. Negative traits are negative. Positive traits are positive. Regardless of gender. I also have no problem recognizing the differences between masculinity or femininity. but these are just social constructs, they're ideas of how men or women should be and I think they're a load of cow crap to be honest. There's nothing about being soft and gentle and nuturing that's inherently womanly. There's nothing about being strong and whatever other "masculine" things there are that's inherently manly. People are different and genders aren't special. That's my opinion of course.

Yeah I know mine is not a popular opinion to have around here lol. But then again, most aren't.

Meh it's not something we need to agree on, not for friendship sake for sure. I think your opinion must be more popular than mine otherwise those stereotypes (for lack of better term) wouldn't exist. A good thing, I think, though is that people seem to be growing more and more accepting of letting others be who they are instead of trying to force them into a specific gender box.

[Reforged]

I sincerely doubt he cared her. My guess is he had been waiting for a reason to walk out for a long time and had only been intending to marry her because kids were in the equation.
Its impossible to walk away from someone you love let alone plan for a month to humiliate them on youtube.

[Losty]

I sincerely doubt he cared her. My guess is he had been waiting for a reason to walk out for a long time and had only been intending to marry her because kids were in the equation.
Its impossible to walk away from someone you love let alone plan for a month to humiliate them on youtube.

It is most certainly not impossible to walk away from someone you love. It's difficult but it's not impossible. I do think the guy is a douchebag for making this video.

Still, the dildo microphone was awesome

[Losty]

No, you didn't, which is why I asked for clarification.

It's clear to me. I considered his behavior on the video to be quite shrewish, being defined as:(of a woman) bad-tempered or aggressively assertive; having the disposition of a shrew; nagging. The behavior itself is NOT descriptive of most women, nor is it ascribed to women alone.

However, by  definition, it's not an adjective that is used to described males. Yet, that is precisely the adjective that came to my mind when I watched this guy in action. 

Some behaviors are perceived  as unmanly, be that right or wrong. By taking this common perception into account, I simply offered a plausible explanation as to why the woman in the video may have cheated. She may have perceived him as unmanly. I feel that his behavior in the video, and his decision to post it demonstrates this.

Hope that explanation is adequate. If you disagree, that's fine. But, I see no need to change my language regarding my feelings on the matter.

[Catholic_Lady]

Absolutely, Losty.

A question though. Do you think there is a reason why, for example, there are a lot more men who are pilots and engineers than woman who are those things, and a lot more women who are hairdressers and school teachers than men who are those things? Or is it purely because of society?

Now let me be perfectly clear on something: I do not think there is ANYTHING wrong with a man choosing to be a kindergarten teacher or with a woman choosing to be a bomber pilot. People can do what they want, and if that's what they're good at and what they want to do, go for it. Doesn't matter what you are.

But my point is perhaps there is an inherent reason why more women tend to be more interested in certain things and more men tend to be more interested in other things. Perhaps that reason is because, while there are exceptions, men and women have a certain difference to them that extends beyond just genitalia and physicality. I don't think there's anything wrong with that or that we need to try to deny this. It doesn't make one sex better than the other, just makes them different.