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RE: Would you date a christian?
November 30, 2015 at 9:15 pm
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(November 30, 2015 at 5:40 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: When looking to be in a relationship, is the other person being a practicing/faithful Christian an automatic deal breaker for you?
Define practicing/faithful.
If she thinks Her belief suits herself, but mileage can and should differ according to the individual, then no, it is not a deal breaker. If she thinks what she believes is the overarching truth applicable to everyone and others would be morally or fatewise less for not believing the same thing, then that absofuckinglutely would be a deal breaker.
If she tries to convert me, then that would be a deal breaker.
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RE: Would you date a christian?
November 30, 2015 at 9:18 pm
(November 30, 2015 at 9:15 pm)Anomalocaris Wrote: (November 30, 2015 at 5:40 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: When looking to be in a relationship, is the other person being a practicing/faithful Christian an automatic deal breaker for you?
Define practicing/faithful.
To think she finds to belief suits herself, and mileage can and should differ according to the individual, then no, it is not a deal breaker. To think what she believes is the overarching truth applicable to everyone and others would be morally or fatewise less for not believing the same thing, then absofuckinglutely.
So in short, it's not being a Christian that creates the disability, it's being an asshat that does it.
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RE: Would you date a christian?
November 30, 2015 at 9:19 pm
Dating could be an issue.
Wonder about banging one?
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RE: Would you date a christian?
November 30, 2015 at 9:22 pm
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Voted not a dealbreaker, because I could probably date a casual Christian. Chances are, he wouldn't stay one way too long anyway. 
Wouldn't date a man at all if I caught so much as a whiff of fundamentalism though, but that type normally isn't interested in me either. I have met a few that have expressed interest, but they were the rescuing type. It was clear to me that they felt I was in need of saving/major adjustment.
Why begin a relationship with someone who thinks that your fundamentally flawed and in need of a complete overhaul from the start? No thanks. I'll pass on that.
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RE: Would you date a christian?
November 30, 2015 at 9:24 pm
I am pleasantly surprised by the answers.
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RE: Would you date a christian?
November 30, 2015 at 9:24 pm
(November 30, 2015 at 9:07 pm)The_Empress Wrote: I hate being closed-minded, but I'm there in this case. I've tried to date Christians in the past, some of the cafeteria variety, some more fervent; it has never worked out because we are too different fundamentally.
That's almost exactly how I feel about it now.
I'm saying I almost certainly never would. I'm saying basically I wouldn't but never say never. I couldn't 100% rule it out and I assume you are saying you do, but I basically never expect to make any exceptions.
As a general rule it's "never", "no way", "not happening", "not in a million years" but I still guess I couldn't rule it out completely *shrugs*
That's why I put "other" but I could have almost as easily put "it's a dealbreaker." Generally it is, for all realistic intents and purposes it is.
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RE: Would you date a christian?
November 30, 2015 at 9:25 pm
(November 30, 2015 at 9:18 pm)Cthulhu Dreaming Wrote: (November 30, 2015 at 9:15 pm)Anomalocaris Wrote: Define practicing/faithful.
To think she finds to belief suits herself, and mileage can and should differ according to the individual, then no, it is not a deal breaker. To think what she believes is the overarching truth applicable to everyone and others would be morally or fatewise less for not believing the same thing, then absofuckinglutely.
So in short, it's not being a Christian that creates the disability, it's being an asshat that does it.
Except asshatery so intrinsic to Christianity it would take some degree of intellectual dissonance to consider oneself a Christian without feeling obligated to be an asshat.
Not that intellectual dissonance in that case would not improve the individual, or rather would not prevent the individual from being further unimproved by Christianity.
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RE: Would you date a christian?
November 30, 2015 at 9:42 pm
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(November 30, 2015 at 5:40 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: When looking to be in a relationship, is the other person being a practicing/faithful Christian an automatic deal breaker for you?
It opens up a debate to what a practicing faithful Christian is, how they interpret the bible and so on.
The two women who I dated who definitely expressed their Christianity to me both had sex with me on the first night we met, to me that's not being a practicing Christian though, that's just stacks of bullshit.
That's bullshitting to yourself and other people that you really do believe in bullshit when you actually don't and you're just bullshitting.
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RE: Would you date a christian?
November 30, 2015 at 9:44 pm
(November 30, 2015 at 9:24 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: I am pleasantly surprised by the answers.
Well, my mother's devoutly Catholic and my father's an atheist.
Both kids are now atheists.
I honestly don't see why it can't work so long as there's understanding and tolerance.
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RE: Would you date a christian?
November 30, 2015 at 9:48 pm
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I suppose....
If someone was nominally a Christian, but was so liberal that they didn't take it very seriously at all, it could work. I think it's the worshipping, submission, and thinking morality can and should come from religion that would cause me big problems. Also the idea that people who are not part of the religion deserve lesser afterlives.
In the case of Christianity, there's the added problem of accepting vicarious redemption and the belief that we are inherently broken and in need of fixing. All of these things are fundamental differences I don't think I could overcome in a long term relationship.
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