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Atheists: Can You Still Accept X'n Friends?
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RE: Atheists: Can You Still Accept X'n Friends?
(July 11, 2016 at 1:02 am)Detachable Wrote: Though I guess not everyone here is an atheist, I am. I'm finding it harder and harder to remain friends with believers.
This question is directed at other atheists. So, if you reply, please state first whether or not you are an atheist. If an atheist, please also state if you are a Type 1 or Type 2 atheist, as defined below. :-)
Question:
As an atheist, do you find you are still able to be friends with believers?
What I've found is that there are 2 basic types of atheists:
1) Simply don't believe in god, but don't mind if others do
2) Don't believe in god because they think it's a dangerous fairytale

I am in the second group. My hunch is that people in the first group can still be friends with believers. 
So, more specifically: If you are a 'Type 2 atheist,' are you still able to be friends with believers? If so, doesn't it cause significant 'cognitive dissonance' (mental confusion/stress)?
Thx, D

If you consider friends to be people who you don't have sex with but you do more than just work with I don't have time for many friends in general at all unfortunately.

I've had sex with and worked with Christians and been friendly with them, just from my experiences in work I tend to get along better with people who have atheistic tenancies of belief and skepticism because there are less barriers of conversation as in things that are unmentionable.
One of my best friends in my last work place was an ultra ultra religious Muslim, I've never met a Muslim as religious as him since, I used to have a good laugh with him but definitely with a lot of things I had to be wary of mentioning without a doubt.  


Sometimes it can be things you forget that religious people believe that you shouldn't talk about if you don't want to be offensive.  I've offended a Nigerian Christian in work by mentioning dinosaurs, and I think I offended a Muslim when I said giant humans couldn't exist because of gravity and he said I was talking bullshit, possibly because the hadith mentions adam and eve as being giants, or maybe he had another reason for doubting what I was saying.


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#22
RE: Atheists: Can You Still Accept X'n Friends?
I will not allow religion or politics come between me and my family. Nevertheless I still preach the Gospel and sometimes I use words.
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#23
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I was dating a christian for over 2 years. I think religion was or at least would have become a problem at some point. Having atheist wife and in-laws is really an advantage.
The fool hath said in his heart, There is a God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good.
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RE: Atheists: Can You Still Accept X'n Friends?
I've got a few believer friends that know I'm an atheist. They don't preach at me, and I don't mess with them about believing in the holy scapegoat. I don't think I've ever met one of the crazier christians in person. Even though I live in the bible belt, the local christians tend to be fairly liberal.
Poe's Law: "Without a winking smiley or other blatant display of humor, it is impossible to create a parody of Fundamentalism that SOMEONE won't mistake for the real thing."

10 Christ-like figures that predate Jesus. Link shortened to Chris ate Jesus for some reason...
http://listverse.com/2009/04/13/10-chris...ate-jesus/

Good video to watch, if you want to know how common the Jesus story really is.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=88GTUXvp-50

A list of biblical contradictions from the infallible word of Yahweh.
http://infidels.org/library/modern/jim_m...tions.html

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RE: Atheists: Can You Still Accept X'n Friends?
(July 11, 2016 at 1:02 am)Detachable Wrote: Question:
As an atheist, do you find you are still able to be friends with believers?
What I've found is that there are 2 basic types of atheists:
1) Simply don't believe in god, but don't mind if others do
2) Don't believe in god because they think it's a dangerous fairytale

I am in the second group. My hunch is that people in the first group can still be friends with believers. 

As a type-oner I have no in-principle reason to reject a theist as a friend.  I consider Catholic-Lady a friend.  I was also fond of Fr0d0 and am fond of the board's curmudgeonly Swedenborgian.   But in RL I find myself more often buddying up with atheists, except in the world of plants and gardens.  I assiduously avoid finding out what their religious standing may be since that has no relation to my interest in them and may well interfere with enjoying what I do value in them.  It just ain't that big a thang.
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RE: Atheists: Can You Still Accept X'n Friends?
(July 11, 2016 at 9:57 am)Alex K Wrote: I was dating a christian for over 2 years. I think religion was or at least would have become a problem at some point. Having atheist wife and in-laws is really an advantage.

Neglected to say I married one of us too.  Definitely an advantage, especially if you plan to go to seed.
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RE: Atheists: Can You Still Accept X'n Friends?
(July 11, 2016 at 8:45 am)Aoi Magi Wrote: No i am not an atheist ..

Someone seize her/him. I'll get the tar. Someone start plucking the cocks.


(July 11, 2016 at 8:45 am)Aoi Magi Wrote: I, and I believe most people here, pick friends based on their level of assholism instead of X-ism. Sure religious fanatics tend to be assholes, but so can atheists if they try to force their views on others without provocation.

Obviously a consideration for Vorlon. Me too, but I'm far more interested in the fleshy bounciness on either side.
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#28
RE: Atheists: Can You Still Accept X'n Friends?
I have no problem befriending christians. In fact, most of my friends are christian. I don't need to agree with people completely in order to be friends, otherwise it would be completely impossible to have friends at all, because there is always something that you disagree on. That is normal, in fact it can be very interesting.
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#29
RE: Atheists: Can You Still Accept X'n Friends?
Of course I can hold believers as friends.

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#30
RE: Atheists: Can You Still Accept X'n Friends?
So long as they don't preach to me, demand I go with them to religious services, or try to 'save' me, I can be friends with just about anyone.
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