are there any girls in the world that like shy guys?

[Athene]

Nothing wrong with shy guys, IMO. Provided they're able to overcome their shyness at the "appropriate" moments, of course.  

Times like that, I prefer bossy and demanding.

[bennyboy]

Not really.  Physically, if you're a man, you'll have a buildup of semen that expresses itself.  But you can live a normal life with little or no thought about sex, or sexual feelings, for sure.  I've also done this at times in my life.  I was trying to turn that energy to other uses, and was able to really see female sexuality as breeding monkey reflex, and to look at it analytically from the third person, and not let myself get inside it.

That is repressing your sex drive. You still have a sex drive you're just sublimating it. EP claimed it's possible to "become an asexual" out of an act of will. It's not.

I dunno, man.  At times when I've been distracted, and I mean 100% distracted, I've lost all thought/desire for sex for weeks at a time.  It wasn't repression, it was focus. I can say that during intense exam times, or when I'm deeply engrossed in programming or philosophy, I can definitely become an asexual person. It's not really an act of will-- it's really just that the biology gives way to the psychology of focus.

The rest of you can call it repression or whatever, but I have personal experience with this, and the way EP talks about it is more right than the way people are refusing to accept it.

[LadyForCamus]

cool thing about atheism is you really see how life works and its nice to know that you can choose to live and if you don't like it you always have the option to commit suicide without any fear of hell after you die - but either ways you know that it is only a matter of time before you die anyways, and time doesn't stop so ya might as well hang in there cus if you end up paralyzed for life that will be a REAL hell! 

but i am 27 years old and i know that girls like guys who are confident - i understand it at all tbh, i guess being super hot but having low confidence = being fat and ugly with average confidence? 

but as an atheist now it all makes 100% sense, its all SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST!! - you see maybe i like girls with nice butts and round mommy boobies, because my instincts are telling me this broad can carry children nicely? and maybe girls like guys with lots of money and confidence cus their instincts tell them that this guy can provide me with money and stuff and also protect me and secure the future my myself and my child. 

but i feel like lot of guys just fake the confidence, cus they try to act confident and say lame ass things, and i can see right through their bullshit - but i guess girl's instincts can't? 

also how can i become asexual? because - i feel like maybe asexuality is kind of a genetic failsafe. because life is survival of the fittest, but what if an organism realizes that it is not fit to reproduce, does it at that point have a cognitive dissonance and just lose the desire to get a girlfriend?

because the thing is i know girls don't like me beacuse of my confidence and social anxiety and mental illness - and i spent years working on it, but im so tired and tbh i am happy with how i am and i really don't care if i stutter when i talk when i first meet people cus once i get comfortable with them i am ok, but since survival of the fittest immediately puts that as a red flag, girls don't like me - but the problem is my subconscious mind did not innate the asexual protocols - so now i am stuck unable to get a girlfriend, but i still really want to bone the hell out of a nice hot girl with a fit nice ass nice and mommy boobies...what do i do??

Lower your standards.

[Homeless Nutter]

[...]
also how can i become asexual?[...]

Heroin. Lots of it. Junkies lose sex drive.

[...]so now i am stuck unable to get a girlfriend, but i still really want to bone the hell out of a nice hot girl with a fit nice ass nice and mommy boobies...what do i do??

Wank yourself raw, I suppose...

[Homeless Nutter]

I dunno, man.  At times when I've been distracted, and I mean 100% distracted, I've lost all thought/desire for sex for weeks at a time.  It wasn't repression, it was focus. [...]

Nope - that sounds like textbook repression. That's why in more puritan times many people spent a lot of their time on time-intensive hobbies, art, writing journals and other such pursuits, which help one keep sexual instincts out of mind.

It's perfectly possible to survive without sex, without being asexual, however in modern times it's somewhat more difficult, because we're being bombarded by sexual stimuli by people and organizations trying to sell us sh*t, we're being made to believe, that quantity and quality of sex is a reflection of one's success in life and that everyone else is having great sex all the time.

[bennyboy]

Hmmm okay. To me asexual means not having sex or being compelled by sexual feelings. "Repression" sounds unnecessarily negative to me-- it usually involves guilt, disgust, or even the imposition of others, leading to an inability to sexual express oneself. Choosing not to have sexual feelings, to me, might better be called subversion-- but I think "choosing to be asexual" is good enough.

I like my terminology better than yours, but if we agree on the facts, then it doesn't really matter too much.

[Edwardo Piet]

[...]so now i am stuck unable to get a girlfriend, but i still really want to bone the hell out of a nice hot girl with a fit nice ass nice and mommy boobies...what do i do??

Wank yourself raw, I suppose...

He should learn from the master!!!

[The Valkyrie]

[Excited Penguin]

That is repressing your sex drive. You still have a sex drive you're just sublimating it. EP claimed it's possible to "become an asexual" out of an act of will. It's not.

I dunno, man.  At times when I've been distracted, and I mean 100% distracted, I've lost all thought/desire for sex for weeks at a time.  It wasn't repression, it was focus.  I can say that during intense exam times, or when I'm deeply engrossed in programming or philosophy, I can definitely become an asexual person.  It's not really an act of will-- it's really just that the biology gives way to the psychology of focus.

The rest of you can call it repression or whatever, but I have personal experience with this, and the way EP talks about it is more right than the way people are refusing to accept it.

Focus. Yes, that is exactly it. You totally get it.

I don't think anyone else will unless they'll actually experience that degree of control over their minds and bodies. That's too bad for them.

[Excited Penguin]

I dunno, man.  At times when I've been distracted, and I mean 100% distracted, I've lost all thought/desire for sex for weeks at a time.  It wasn't repression, it was focus. [...]

Nope - that sounds like textbook repression. That's why in more puritan times many people spent a lot of their time on time-intensive hobbies, art, writing journals and other such pursuits, which help one keep sexual instincts out of mind.

It's perfectly possible to survive without sex, without being asexual, however in modern times it's somewhat more difficult, because we're being bombarded by sexual stimuli by people and organizations trying to sell us sh*t, we're being made to believe, that quantity and quality of sex is a reflection of one's success in life and that everyone else is having great sex all the time.

Deliberate repression and this thing me and benny are talking about are obviously going to interlap, that doesn't mean they are the same thing. For one you make a continous effort, and it ends up ruining your life at some level, for the other it's just about being above it all to such a degree that it makes you a whole lot better, not to mention it being virtually effortless(it's something you experience, it's a certain mindset, it's not something you're actively trying to achieve).