Understanding Narcissism

[CapnAwesome]

Yeah, she's good looking so she must be a good person. Lul wat?

Because of the halo effect duh! I suffer chronically from this:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halo_effect

Cognitive biases = truth if I can still function and especially if I can get happy-sauce injected into my brain and by that I mean attention from people on the internet, yum-yum, yum-yum.

I love to put people on the pedestal and that all overrides logic and truth. After all define "truth". I define truth as "whatever helps me cope and have fun".

Kitticorn is perfect in multiple ways therefore she is perfect in all ways. Eat my turtle balls if you disagree.

I'll never understand celebrity worship anyway. Who cares about Rhianna, it's not like you'll ever have anything to do with her life. So if she is good, bad, beautiful, ugly, who cares?

[Edwardo Piet]

Although I'm sure Beccs wouldn't mind if you two threw knives at each other

That's because she's sadistically delicious.

I'd rather spectate her do her psychopathic thing with someone else though. I'm a pervert not a masochist. Sheesh.

[CapnAwesome]

As to Narcissism, I think it's a totally underrated personality trait. This is coming from someone who calls himself Captain Awesome so take that with a grain of salt.

Everybody is self interested, most people just hide it behind false modesty and humble bragging. Narcissists tend to be more successful and more interesting of people. A lot of people bashing on narcissists are just jealous. Most people are just dull and predictable.

[Edwardo Piet]

But those suffering with NPD supposedly project a false self-image of thinking highly of themselves but in actuality they consider themselves worthless and they feel lots of shame. They have a grandiose false self-image and that is why they crave so much attention and feel depleted without it. They need others to feed their own weak self esteem. They hide behind an inflated false self. They are emotional vampires. They feed off of Narcissistic Supply which they are addicted to.

[Joods]

 A lot of people bashing on narcissists are just jealous.  

Everyone has narcissim to a degree. For the most part, those levels are healthy. I bash on narcissists because after personally dealing with one for the last 16 years, having him drag me through the family court system, lie under oath, manipulate my family and my children, verbally and emotionally abuse me long after the relationship ended and who still manipulates judges, lawyers and psychiatrists alike, I can tell you wholeheartedly, 

I am NOT jealous. There is no jealousy to be had for someone who is that cold, ruthless and inconsiderate to the levels that he should be in jail for some of the things he has done to both myself and my children. 

Nope. The sheer amount of hell that man has put me though - a person just can't make this stuff up. And sadly, I am not alone in this.

[CapnAwesome]

But those suffering with NPD supposedly project a false self-image of thinking highly of themselves but in actuality they consider themselves worthless and they feel lots of shame. They have a grandiose false self-image and that is why they crave so much attention and feel depleted without it. They need others to feed their own weak self esteem. They hide behind an inflated false self. They are emotional vampires. They feed off of Narcissistic Supply which they are addicted to.

Meh, doesn't sound so bad really. Most people are depressed and do nothing with their lives because they are paralyzed with their inability to make decisions. No more neurotic then most people, who are depressed anyway. Narcissists also start more businesses and dominate the entertainment industry. What is really the difference between false confidence and confidence? Semantics.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/jennifer-foste...o-success/

Finally, narcissism keeps a person focused and goal oriented. Once a narcissist has made a decision, there really is very little that will halt their progress. Even traits like compulsion and impatience have a way of propelling a person to the top of the world, simply because they believe that they belong there and are entitled to that place. Narcissists know what they want out of life and they use whatever tools they have at their disposal to make it happen.

[CapnAwesome]

 A lot of people bashing on narcissists are just jealous.  

Everyone has narcissim to a degree. For the most part, those levels are healthy. I bash on narcissists because after personally dealing with one for the last 16 years, having him drag me through the family court system, lie under oath, manipulate my family and my children, verbally and emotionally abuse me long after the relationship ended and who still manipulates judges, lawyers and psychiatrists alike, I can tell you wholeheartedly, 

I am NOT jealous. There is no jealousy to be had for someone who is that cold, ruthless and inconsiderate to the levels that he should be in jail for some of the things he has done to both myself and my children. 

Nope. The sheer amount of hell that man has put me though - a person just can't make this stuff up. And sadly, I am not alone in this.

Why were you with him for 16 years? I mean, you don't hide narcissism for 16 years. Maybe for a year, normally for around 6 months.

[Joods]

Finally, narcissism keeps a person focused and goal oriented. Once a narcissist has made a decision, there really is very little that will halt their progress. Even traits like compulsion and impatience have a way of propelling a person to the top of the world, simply because they believe that they belong there and are entitled to that place. Narcissists know what they want out of life and they use whatever tools they have at their disposal to make it happen.

Translation: 

Narcissism, in it's most horrendous form, allows the narcissist to continue manipulating and abusing their victim. Once a narcissist has made a decision, he/she will stop at nothing to hurt their victim and then swoop in to become the rescuer, thereby creating a constant supply on which to feed. Unless the victim finally becomes aware of this tactic, they will forever be left wondering what they did wrong to deserve the kind of often confusing treatment they receive from the narcissist. Meanwhile, the narcissist, having love-bombed their victim, is put on a pedestal by the victim because of the successful manipulation by the narcissist. The narcissist knows this is all a game of cat and mouse and loves to use their victim as a play toy. Once the victim becomes wise to the narcissists tactics and they can see through the narcissist's mask, the narcissist either promptly disposes of the victim, in search of another or they beg for another chance, often promising to change, but rarely are capable of doing so. 

Removing the narcissists mask is also a surefire way to ensure that more desparate actions are to follow if the narc cannot find a new victim for their need of supply.

[Gemini]

But those suffering with NPD supposedly project a false self-image of thinking highly of themselves but in actuality they consider themselves worthless and they feel lots of shame. They have a grandiose false self-image and that is why they crave so much attention and feel depleted without it. They need others to feed their own weak self esteem. They hide behind an inflated false self. They are emotional vampires. They feed off of Narcissistic Supply which they are addicted to.

That's my dad. NPD to a tee. Which is why I'm so opposed to religion. It's served as his primary enabler.

[Joods]

Everyone has narcissim to a degree. For the most part, those levels are healthy. I bash on narcissists because after personally dealing with one for the last 16 years, having him drag me through the family court system, lie under oath, manipulate my family and my children, verbally and emotionally abuse me long after the relationship ended and who still manipulates judges, lawyers and psychiatrists alike, I can tell you wholeheartedly, 

I am NOT jealous. There is no jealousy to be had for someone who is that cold, ruthless and inconsiderate to the levels that he should be in jail for some of the things he has done to both myself and my children. 

Nope. The sheer amount of hell that man has put me though - a person just can't make this stuff up. And sadly, I am not alone in this.

Why were you with him for 16 years? I mean, you don't hide narcissism for 16 years. Maybe for a year, normally for around 6 months.

I was not aware of his narcissism until I was finally able to get away from him for good five years into the relationship. He was (and still is) very manipulative. He gets worse every year and has used the family court system to be abusive and get his way. 

I had a longer post written out, but my tablet crashed. Anyway, I've talked about this asshole before, in depth, last year. Some people on here also know the hell this man has put me through. Like I said, you just can't make this stuff up. At all. And unless you've personally lived through it, it's very hard to imagine anyone doing any of the things this man and others like him, are capable of doing.