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November 17, 2016 at 5:13 pm
I know that it feels like you couldn't handle a less than healthy baby, but I'm willing to bet you'd surprise yourself.
I can't even imagine going through what you went through. It's every mother's nightmare. My aunt went through the same thing with her daughter. I don't think anyone who hasn't had it happen will ever understand. You seem like you'll make a good mom, though. I don't think this has to stop you. For now, though, I hope you guys are taking care of each other. That's all that matters. You'll make your decision when you're ready.
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November 17, 2016 at 5:59 pm
(November 17, 2016 at 4:47 pm)Shell B Wrote: I had no idea you lost your baby, CL.
Oh, and this^. I was actually in the middle taking a break from AF when all the bad stuff was going down. But everyone here already knew I was expecting, so after he died I made a post to let everyone know what happened: http://atheistforums.org/thread-44655.html
It's kind of a tribute to him as well, and I'd be honored if you took a peek.
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November 17, 2016 at 6:17 pm
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. . . and I'm crying. Those tiny hand and feet prints. Poor baby. 
I wondered why I didn't see it on FB, then realized you just found me there in October. Tibs didn't say anything. He's quite reserved about people's personal things. We both wish you the best.
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November 17, 2016 at 6:19 pm
Sorry for your loss and disappointment. Think I told you before my wife was very prone to spontaneous abortions. Her body just didn't accept that they belonged there. But then she did manage to carry my step son to term forty years ago.
When we got together neither of us had any thought of more kids but right when she was forty herself we got inspired to go for it. The first and only time I've ever shot any off looking to make something of it. Strange feeling after a life devoted to avoiding the same. Then her appendix burst and it all became moot.
All I can tell you is it seems that which ever way your life goes can end up acquiring a 'just right' feel. We didn't need to make a kid together to cement a good relationship and I'll bet you don't either. I find the four footers more than enough responsibility. They never become rebellious teenagers (well ..) and never move out and fail to call. Just right.
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November 17, 2016 at 6:28 pm
Yeah, 31 isn't old. Now 61. That would be pushing it.
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November 17, 2016 at 6:37 pm
My wife was 32 when our daughter was born. That's a completely standard age to have kids for people with our carreer path. The probabilities for chromosomal problems are still quite low.
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November 17, 2016 at 7:15 pm
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My parents both were 40 when I was born. Back in '63 when this wasn't as uncomplicated as it is now. But I'm still here to tell the tale, so I wouldn't worry too much over age.
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November 17, 2016 at 9:04 pm
I was at the doctor's office today waiting for a blood draw, and they called in a couple with a tiny baby all wrapped up in blankies. They were in the room for that, and even with the door closed, I could hear the baby screaming during the procedure. And the cry wasn't 'right'. Didn't sound like any crying baby I'd heard before. Hard not to think of this, and then went I went in the room next, it was hard to keep my composure.
No idea what's up with the baby, never actually saw it for all the coverings, but it will be a long while before I forget that crying . . . .
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November 17, 2016 at 9:22 pm
(November 17, 2016 at 9:04 pm)vorlon13 Wrote: I was at the doctor's office today waiting for a blood draw, and they called in a couple with a tiny baby all wrapped up in blankies. They were in the room for that, and even with the door closed, I could hear the baby screaming during the procedure. And the cry wasn't 'right'. Didn't sound like any crying baby I'd heard before. Hard not to think of this, and then went I went in the room next, it was hard to keep my composure.
No idea what's up with the baby, never actually saw it for all the coverings, but it will be a long while before I forget that crying . . . .
Oh wow. I hope the baby is ok. Hopefully it was just some colic or a little cold.
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November 17, 2016 at 9:30 pm
Hmmm .. I wonder what Anne of Green Gables would have done for a colicky baby?
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