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What's your most favorite thing about being Single/Married?
#11
RE: What's your most favorite thing about being Single/Married?
(January 30, 2017 at 8:49 am)downbeatplumb Wrote:
(January 30, 2017 at 6:31 am)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote: Being married means having someone to scratch my back.

Boru

I think you may be my wife! Big Grin

You could do worse.

Boru
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#12
RE: What's your most favorite thing about being Single/Married?
I don't understand. I'm married and I spend my money however I want. I do whatever I want. Hang out with whoever I want. I read at night, if I want to. Darwin was afraid of marrying his mother, clearly, and people need to have pre-arranged financial plans.

Best thing about being married is my husband.
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#13
RE: What's your most favorite thing about being Single/Married?
I enjoyed the freedom of being single when I was younger, and I thought I would want it forever. Once I reached a certain age, I felt myself changing, and valuing the closeness of a relationship over that freedom. I'm now completely happy in my marriage. The love, trust, affection and fun we have are the most important things in my life.
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#14
RE: What's your most favorite thing about being Single/Married?
Being married is the best thing in the world. I know the term "life partner" is overused and super cliche, but it really is the best way to describe it. You have another person there to do life with you, whom you love more than anyone, and who loves you more than anyone. There are no secrets between you, and just knowing that you both can know each other completely and still love each other just as you are is incredibly liberating.
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#15
RE: What's your most favorite thing about being Single/Married?
I don't marry because I fear divorce. Some entities say that the divorce rate in the USA is about 50% now. So much for "til death do you part". So much for my grandparents' ethic of maintaining their marriage until my grandfather's death 67 years later. That's the only kind of marriage I'd ever want to be in. 

But then, you can never be sure how things will turn out, I guess. 

I'm disabled, and these sorts of things are taboo (or at least were very much so when I was a teen). So, at 41, I have no dating experience. I first (and last) kissed girls when I was 15. If I somehow didn't have spina bifida, it would be interesting to see if I looked at this subject a lot differently.

Pros of being married? Maybe feeling like you're a part of something special that is larger than yourself. Sex and other physical closeness. Help with the questions of adult life (that sounded weird). A greater sense of identity. 

Cons? Compromise. Feeling tied down. Not finding enough alone time. Feeling guilty at taking advantage of said alone time. 

I'm sure I could think of more.
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#16
RE: What's your most favorite thing about being Single/Married?
(January 30, 2017 at 6:15 am)pool the great Wrote: Single is freedom. You get to hang out with your friends. You get to go for long trips. You get to spend your money however you want without risking upsetting your partner. 

Lol we hang out with our friends as a couple all the time. It just makes it more fun. Same with going on trips. Being married means you always have someone to go on trips with you. As for money, I don't care what my husband buys, and vice versa, so long as we are still able to pay the bills and grocery. But that's a factor regardless if you're married or single. Contrary to some popular belief, marriage (a good marriage at least) is incredibly liberating. 

I feel much more "free" now than I ever did as a single person, going on dates and worrying about whether I'll be liked, or if it'll be awkward, or if he'll call me, etc etc. And not having that one person I can rely on 100% for everything. Pain in the butt!

(January 30, 2017 at 11:25 am)Shell B Wrote: I don't understand. I'm married and I spend my money however I want. I do whatever I want. Hang out with whoever I want. I read at night, if I want to. Darwin was afraid of marrying his mother, clearly, and people need to have pre-arranged financial plans.

Best thing about being married is my husband.

Same here!
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly." 

-walsh
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#17
RE: What's your most favorite thing about being Single/Married?
Clearly, the best thing about marriage is that anyone who has experienced it need not fear hell . . .

*Wife walks into the room and approaches the monitor*

. . . bent single women and their constant unwanted attentions. It's so good to have put that burdensome nonsense behind me and found true love at last!

*Watches wife depart room and wipes sweat off keyboard*
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#18
RE: What's your most favorite thing about being Single/Married?
Advantage of single?

well, as I've discovered, bringing someone up to speed on me is quite an undertaking


-and-


If I encountered 'another' Brian and lost him, I don't know if I could experience that again



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#19
RE: What's your most favorite thing about being Single/Married?
Single after 2 long-term relationships, more than 35 years in total.

I've discovered I like just sitting quietly, puttering around on random projects. I get a sufficient social "fix" through work, music lessons, community band rehearsals and going to the local Humanist group, and my adult daughter lives on the top floor of my house as well, so loneliness is not a problem. It's nice to be in full control of my own schedule and come and go as I see fit.
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#20
RE: What's your most favorite thing about being Single/Married?
(January 30, 2017 at 12:00 pm)c172 Wrote: I don't marry because I fear divorce. Some entities say that the divorce rate in the USA is about 50% now. So much for "til death do you part". So much for my grandparents' ethic of maintaining their marriage until my grandfather's death 67 years later. That's the only kind of marriage I'd ever want to be in. 

But then, you can never be sure how things will turn out, I guess. 

I'm disabled, and these sorts of things are taboo (or at least were very much so when I was a teen). So, at 41, I have no dating experience. I first (and last) kissed girls when I was 15. If I somehow didn't have spina bifida, it would be interesting to see if I looked at this subject a lot differently.

Pros of being married? Maybe feeling like you're a part of something special that is larger than yourself. Sex and other physical closeness. Help with the questions of adult life (that sounded weird). A greater sense of identity. 

Cons? Compromise. Feeling tied down. Not finding enough alone time. Feeling guilty at taking advantage of said alone time. 

I'm sure I could think of more.

Don't be afraid of divorce. I did it once and it was awesome. I learned so many things and have a much better marriage now for it. That said, I understand completely. I felt like such a failure at first.
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