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Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
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RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
November 15, 2017 at 1:30 pm
I don't think this requires a Big Reveal or anything like that. It's not like you're telling her you have genital warts. If it comes up and you're unsure about saying 'atheist', then identify as a rational skeptic and leave it at that.
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RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
November 15, 2017 at 1:31 pm (This post was last modified: November 15, 2017 at 1:34 pm by The Grand Nudger.)
Anecdotal, and all joking aside...but you guys haven't heard me say anything that my wife hasn't...and she's heard some even choicer bits that won't fit here for being squarely against whatever loose rules we have.  She appreciates that I don't couch myself in saccharine terms and sweet nothingisms...it shows that I respect her enough as an equal not to believe that she's too fragile for mean words to be spoken about religion in her presence.  It;s not like I have to have the smelling salts at the ready everytime I crack a -seriously- nasty comment about god beliefs.

As a bonus, she knows me better than she would if I offered non-confrontational platitudes. What she was raised in and who I am are in direct confrontation - ignoring that would have been disastrous for our family.
(November 15, 2017 at 1:30 pm)Crossless2.0 Wrote: I don't think this requires a Big Reveal or anything like that. It's not like you're telling her you have genital warts. If it comes up and you're unsure about saying 'atheist', then identify as a rational skeptic and leave it at that.

Could totally work that in though.

"I don't believe in that..but look on the bright side, I don't have genital warts!"
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#33
RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
November 15, 2017 at 2:10 pm
(November 15, 2017 at 6:08 am)Mathilda Wrote: You could just pretend to be really ignorant about christianity as if you knew nothing about it and were finding out about it for the first time. When she tries to convert you, ask really awkward questions in an innocent way so that she comes to realise how it all sounds to a fresh pair of ears.

e.g.

"So this god, do you actually hear him? Or you imagine hearing him?"
"So he is everywhere all the time, even when I want some privacy like on the shitter?"
"How do you know that God is male?"
(November 15, 2017 at 6:01 am)Cod Wrote: I would get her favours and then tell her Wink

"Oh God yes! Yes! YES!"
"I'm an atheist."
"YES! Yeah ... what???"

Best advice I've heard. I'll take it.
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RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
November 15, 2017 at 2:38 pm
(November 15, 2017 at 1:30 pm)Crossless2.0 Wrote: I don't think this requires a Big Reveal or anything like that. It's not like you're telling her you have genital warts. If it comes up and you're unsure about saying 'atheist', then identify as a rational skeptic and leave it at that.

And if she's studying Reiki? Now he's really fucked.
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RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
November 15, 2017 at 2:41 pm
(November 15, 2017 at 9:44 am)Gawdzilla Sama Wrote:
(November 15, 2017 at 9:38 am)mh.brewer Wrote: LOL, what's a "true atheist"?

One's that don't reflect in mirrors according to my cousins.

A true atheist is an atheist, lol.
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RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
November 15, 2017 at 3:05 pm (This post was last modified: November 15, 2017 at 3:26 pm by mlmooney89.)
Religion doesn't have to play a part in the early stages of a relationship at all. If she isn't saying anything about it I don't think you should either. If and when things get more serious (I'm talking possible engagement) then bring it up cause the way to raise a family can differ for people with different religions. Don't want kids? Then you might just be good to go to never talk about it lol.

The only time I talk to my Catholic husband about religion is when we are making fun of religious nuts (he is pretty laid back and thinks a lot of things heavily religious people do are stupid and amusing) We both agreed to let our daughter ask her own questions when she is old enough, neither will prompt or preach anything until then.
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RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
November 15, 2017 at 3:17 pm
(November 15, 2017 at 3:05 pm)mlmooney89 Wrote: Religion doesn't have to play a part in the early stages of a relationship at all. If she isn't saying anything about it I don't think you should either. If and when things get more serious (I'm talking possible engagement) then bring it up cause the way to raise a family can differ for people with different religions. Don't want kids? Then you might just be good to go to never talk about it lol.

The only time I talk to my Catholic husband is when we are making fun of religious nuts (he is pretty laid back and thinks a lot of things heavily religious people do are stupid and amusing) We both agreed to let our daughter ask her own questions when she is old enough, neither will prompt or preach anything until then.

Same here. My wife wanted a baptism, but I convinced her it was better to let Sofia choose for herself. they usually baptize kids here at around 1 year of age. I am personally inbued with the holy spirits because my parents had a priest say words and splash water into your forhead. therefore I am saved Haha!

My daughter will have her free will on that.
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RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
November 15, 2017 at 3:43 pm
(November 15, 2017 at 1:31 pm)Khemikal Wrote: Could totally work that in though.

"I don't believe in that..but look on the bright side, I don't have genital warts!"

If someone said that to me I'd wonder if genital warts were the only thing that they did not have because they specifically referred to it and not just say that they are free of all STDs.
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RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
November 15, 2017 at 4:02 pm
(November 15, 2017 at 3:03 am)erealmz Wrote: Okay she's not really my girlfriend we're just kind of talking right now. But I found out that she does go to church and so she is most likely a Christian. I really do like this girl and I want to make it work with her, but she does not know that I'm an atheist. As a true atheist, I stand behind my beliefs 100%. But when it comes to women, that 100% turns into about 23%.

I don't think that admitting my atheism to her will sway her intentions towards me. I'm more likely to screw that up on my own. But none the less I am trying to present an image from the core of my being that is nothing more than myself. I keep it real. So I want to tell her that I don't believe in her God (though not exactly in those words LOL). Should I just make the announcement plain bold and simple? Or should I just wait until it kind of falls into place? Opinions atheists. I trust your feedback more than I've ever trusted the Christians, even if you guys have more sarcasm behind your rhetorics.

Well, being that you aren't dating yet, just wait till the topic comes up. But it's perhaps something she should know when you make it official. But I wouldn't make a point to mention it yet.
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RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
November 15, 2017 at 4:37 pm (This post was last modified: November 15, 2017 at 4:43 pm by The Industrial Atheist.)
(November 15, 2017 at 10:15 am)mh.brewer Wrote:
(November 15, 2017 at 10:09 am)Industrial Lad Wrote: Is that like in Dragon Ball Z when they mention that Gohan's hair is getting long and Vegeta says " A true saiyan has no more hair than he was born with? "

So salyans retain their lanugo?

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Lol I don't know. It doesn't seem like Goku or Vegeta have hairy backs. Nappa certainly doesn't.
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