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Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
#21
RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
(November 15, 2017 at 12:34 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: No reason to say anything unless she asks you.

And if/when that time comes, you don't have to use the word atheist, or say "I am an atheist". You can just say you're not convinced of God's existence.

IMO, one could also say that he or she prefers to be a free thinker and to keep an open-mind when it comes to matters that pertain to gaining a better understanding of reality.











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#22
RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
Not so subtle implication that she is not a free thinker..and is close minded. Women pick up on passive aggressiveness like that readily, in my experience. Wink

There's just no "nice" way to tell a person you don't believe in the bullshit they believe in.
I am the Infantry. I am my country’s strength in war, her deterrent in peace. I am the heart of the fight… wherever, whenever. I carry America’s faith and honor against her enemies. I am the Queen of Battle. I am what my country expects me to be, the best trained Soldier in the world. In the race for victory, I am swift, determined, and courageous, armed with a fierce will to win. Never will I fail my country’s trust. Always I fight on…through the foe, to the objective, to triumph overall. If necessary, I will fight to my death. By my steadfast courage, I have won more than 200 years of freedom. I yield not to weakness, to hunger, to cowardice, to fatigue, to superior odds, For I am mentally tough, physically strong, and morally straight. I forsake not, my country, my mission, my comrades, my sacred duty. I am relentless. I am always there, now and forever. I AM THE INFANTRY! FOLLOW ME!
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#23
RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
(November 15, 2017 at 5:54 am)ignoramus Wrote: PO, and that's when you call her an immature little baby cow!

ROFLOL

Sorry Mathilda! Your "other" thread made my day!
Hope you're OK.


Url or it didn't happen.   Dodgy

(November 15, 2017 at 12:32 pm)Minimalist Wrote: You could wait for the day she suggests you go to church and then say "fuck that shit." 

A lot of people go to church out of habit.  Like drugs and alcohol sometimes they need help to break that habit.  If she isn't constantly pulling this "jesus this and jesus that" routine I'd say let it lie.


Or maybe reply "you're all the church I need, baby".
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#24
RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
(November 15, 2017 at 1:00 pm)Khemikal Wrote: Not so subtle implication that she is not a free thinker..and is close minded.  Women pick up on passive aggressiveness like that readily, in my experience.  Wink

There's just no "nice" way to tell a person you don't believe in the bullshit they believe in.

You might be right.  However, it is interesting that such an answer would be straightforward and honest from my pov (that is how I would describe myself in a nutshell on such matters), but from another person's pov, it could be easily perceived as negative.











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#25
RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
(November 15, 2017 at 1:11 pm)Kernel Sohcahtoa Wrote: You might be right.  However, it is interesting that such an answer would be straightforward and honest from my pov (that is how I would describe myself in a nutshell on such matters), but from another person's pov, it could be easily perceived as negative.
-and here there's a not so subtle implication of mis-perception and a conflict between straightforward honesty and negativity.

It -is- straightforward and honest...it's just that straightforward and honest isn't synonymous with positive.  That's why we have the term "brutal honesty".  A perception that such a comment was negative is an accurate one. Ah communication....a field of human landmines if ever there were one. Ultimately, we're only discussing whether it;s better to giggle out "lolbullshit" or couch that very same thought in derisive euphemism. Brutal honesty or sweet deception? I suppose there's room and utility for both.

Wink
I am the Infantry. I am my country’s strength in war, her deterrent in peace. I am the heart of the fight… wherever, whenever. I carry America’s faith and honor against her enemies. I am the Queen of Battle. I am what my country expects me to be, the best trained Soldier in the world. In the race for victory, I am swift, determined, and courageous, armed with a fierce will to win. Never will I fail my country’s trust. Always I fight on…through the foe, to the objective, to triumph overall. If necessary, I will fight to my death. By my steadfast courage, I have won more than 200 years of freedom. I yield not to weakness, to hunger, to cowardice, to fatigue, to superior odds, For I am mentally tough, physically strong, and morally straight. I forsake not, my country, my mission, my comrades, my sacred duty. I am relentless. I am always there, now and forever. I AM THE INFANTRY! FOLLOW ME!
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#26
RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
If you do tell her, don't make it a big thing. Maybe just make some comments or ask questions that imply that you are unconvinced gods exist.

And as others have said, try to avoid the word "atheist". That word has a bunch of baggage attached to it, that does not belong. But many believers only hear about atheists from their clergy, who tend to, lets say, not be the most honest in the matter.

You'd believe if you just opened your heart" is a terrible argument for religion. It's basically saying, "If you bias yourself enough, you can convince yourself that this is true." If religion were true, people wouldn't need faith to believe it -- it would be supported by good evidence.
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#27
RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
(November 15, 2017 at 1:11 pm)Kernel Sohcahtoa Wrote:
(November 15, 2017 at 1:00 pm)Khemikal Wrote: Not so subtle implication that she is not a free thinker..and is close minded.  Women pick up on passive aggressiveness like that readily, in my experience.  Wink

There's just no "nice" way to tell a person you don't believe in the bullshit they believe in.

You might be right.  However, it is interesting that such an answer would be straightforward and honest from my pov (that is how I would describe myself in a nutshell on such matters), but from another person's pov, it could be easily perceived as negative.

I liked your answer. Personaly, if it were me, I wouldn't see it as a passive aggressive insult at all. The thought didn't even cross my mind.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly." 

-walsh
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#28
RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
(November 15, 2017 at 1:20 pm)Khemikal Wrote:
(November 15, 2017 at 1:11 pm)Kernel Sohcahtoa Wrote: You might be right.  However, it is interesting that such an answer would be straightforward and honest from my pov (that is how I would describe myself in a nutshell on such matters), but from another person's pov, it could be easily perceived as negative.
-and here there's a not so subtle implication of mis-perception and a conflict between straightforward honesty and negativity.

It -is- straightforward and honest...it's just that straightforward and honest isn't synonymous with positive.  That's why we have the term "brutal honesty".  A perception that such a comment was negative is an accurate one.  Ah communication....a field of human landmines if ever there were one.  Ultimately, we're only discussing whether it;s better to giggle out "lolbullshit" or couch that very same thought in derisive euphemism.  

Wink


It certainly isn't the kind of slick honesty that will get you laid more often.  Get a clue, son.  


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#29
RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
Tell her you're FLDS and that she'll be number three.
I don't have an anger problem, I have an idiot problem.
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#30
RE: Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?
You'd be surprised....nice guys really do finish last, after all.  The amount of strange you can pull down by being a complete douchenozzle is impressive.  Not that I'd know anything about that...anymore, if anyone's watching. Angel
I am the Infantry. I am my country’s strength in war, her deterrent in peace. I am the heart of the fight… wherever, whenever. I carry America’s faith and honor against her enemies. I am the Queen of Battle. I am what my country expects me to be, the best trained Soldier in the world. In the race for victory, I am swift, determined, and courageous, armed with a fierce will to win. Never will I fail my country’s trust. Always I fight on…through the foe, to the objective, to triumph overall. If necessary, I will fight to my death. By my steadfast courage, I have won more than 200 years of freedom. I yield not to weakness, to hunger, to cowardice, to fatigue, to superior odds, For I am mentally tough, physically strong, and morally straight. I forsake not, my country, my mission, my comrades, my sacred duty. I am relentless. I am always there, now and forever. I AM THE INFANTRY! FOLLOW ME!
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