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RE: I'll need some help with this.
March 9, 2018 at 10:53 am
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(March 9, 2018 at 10:48 am)Brian37 Wrote: (March 9, 2018 at 9:54 am)notimportant1234 Wrote: I can't find a proper word for this. Personally I don't believe in soul mates, it seems to dull to me and it can be very hard to get out of a relationship with the ideea of a ' soul mate' , I mean you would have to consider that your ex may have been the one and this kimd of thinking could make you act stupid.
What I do consider to be true is compatible personallitys or complementary, a concept wich gives you more space and gives every relationship something unique.
My problem is that I can't find a proper wording for this , something more poetic. Do you have any ideeas ?
The reality is that there is no utopia. Some couples get along better than others, some relationships last longer than others. I had a great relationship with my x wife, but even with that, people can and do eventually grow apart and there does not have to be any blame.
It is what works and is healthy. Not sexy, but far better than chasing a Shakespeare play.
Healthy relationships are one of consent, and when differences come up, and they always will, even in the best of relationships, it becomes about listening, without accusing, and problem solving together. I know it's not an utopia , In the most part I agree with what you sayed, I was just trying to find a proper wording.
(March 9, 2018 at 10:48 am)mlmooney89 Wrote: (March 9, 2018 at 10:38 am)notimportant1234 Wrote: Even if I considered it to be a metaphor to a predestined person whic you will end up with I don't find it appealing, quite a cynical ideea. I think people came with this ideea because of proximity, the person one calls a soul mate now will be that until the next person pops up.
I do believe in true love, but I don't think it is limited and can be only experienced with just one special person, every interaction is unique .
I don't think I explained it right because you seem to be taking it as I said one person can only be your true love. I said it's NOT "One" meaning I don't think it's specific to a person. I just think that when you love someone like that it is true love but you can have true love with more than one person. I like kindred spirits but to me that is for any kind of relationship not specific to being "in love" like my bff and I are kindred spirits because we are so much alike and I understand her. My husband and I are very much alike in a lot of ways and I know I have never been in love with anyone else like I am with him. I don't think we are connected in anyway I just think we work really well together and we truly are in love. Hence the true love. If he dies though I'm not going to say I will never love again though. I feel awful for saying it but I'm sure there could be someone out there that I could be in just as deep of love with. I know , sorry , I skiped the last part when I wrote the post but didn't edited it back because I taught I was resonating with you on the topic.
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RE: I'll need some help with this.
March 9, 2018 at 11:37 am
I don't know how to call it either... maybe compatible personalities or complementary ones, it is very helpful more than if we were completely different personalities 
But yes ... the soul mates, I don't think so...anything like that exists, of course we can be very similar to each other, have similar interests, think similarly, want similar things ... but we don't have to love each other... or the contrary we can! 
But for me true love is such a love that is real and vital.. it means for me.. it's my own choice, my decision that i love this person. This is not butterflies in my stomach, because sooner or later they will fly away and only the painful reality will stay.. oh not only hehe... it's not a fascination and thinking about the soul mate, because it will also end. This is my conscious choice that every day I'll try to discover something that is beautiful and valuable in this other person.. and each day I'll give more myself to this other person. The true love ..it's being built every day from scratch ... it's a giving yourself ... but also to let ourselves be loved... I don't know how to explain but yes true love is not easy and is a real challenge!!
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RE: I'll need some help with this.
March 9, 2018 at 11:57 am
Fuck Bunny?
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RE: I'll need some help with this.
March 9, 2018 at 12:00 pm
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RE: I'll need some help with this.
March 9, 2018 at 12:03 pm
More like , fuck friend.
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March 9, 2018 at 12:21 pm
Actual fuck buddies with no/little emotional attachments are rare.
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March 9, 2018 at 12:24 pm
The WLB manages to find them with ease.
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March 9, 2018 at 1:45 pm
(March 9, 2018 at 12:24 pm)Minimalist Wrote: The WLB manages to find them with ease.
That's more about money and power than sex.
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March 9, 2018 at 2:02 pm
I refer to the wife as "the lady willing to put up with me"
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RE: I'll need some help with this.
March 9, 2018 at 8:23 pm
(March 9, 2018 at 10:23 am)J a c k Wrote: Anne of Green Gables called it “kindred spirits”.
I never read the book but I loved the telly series.
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