Things that change us

[Godscreated]

The biggest change in my life was when I decided to live for God, I saw the world in a different light and my life in a better light. You know many things change us and we most often blame something for the bad turns in life, if we would only be honest with ourselves we would see that much came because of what we did or did not do. Yes as young people many influences/influencers change us even when we feel wrong about making the changes, but then we can always go to what we know was correct in the first place. I know because this was part of my life and I'm glad God has changed things for me because I now have a better life than I could have ever had on my own.

GC

You know, it's funny. My greatest change was at The end of my puberty, which i hit rather late and which coincided with me losing my religion.
That transition was hard and unpleasant. But i came out a much happier and much more responsible person. In no small part because i began Looking for my cause of problems within myself, rather than outside myself. Which also made me focus much more on my actions and my own part in solutions. My sense of responsabiliteit and self worth grew without The crux of god. Funny, seems opposite to yours.

 God a crux, not hardly. God guides us and enables us to make good decisions in our lives, He never forces us to make a decision.

GC

[*Deidre*]

You know, it's funny. My greatest change was at The end of my puberty, which i hit rather late and which coincided with me losing my religion.
That transition was hard and unpleasant. But i came out a much happier and much more responsible person. In no small part because i began Looking for my cause of problems within myself, rather than outside myself. Which also made me focus much more on my actions and my own part in solutions. My sense of responsabiliteit and self worth grew without The crux of god. Funny, seems opposite to yours.

 God a crux, not hardly. God guides us and enables us to make good decisions in our lives, He never forces us to make a decision.

GC

I consider myself spiritual, I was a Christian for a while, and left then went back then left...it went on like this, and then I came to find that being spiritual, having beliefs in a higher power, but not holding to a religion, suits me best. Have you always been a Christian?

[Mystic]

 God a crux, not hardly. God guides us and enables us to make good decisions in our lives, He never forces us to make a decision.

GC

I consider myself spiritual, I was a Christian for a while, and left then went back then left...it went on like this, and then I came to find that being spiritual, having beliefs in a higher power, but not holding to a religion, suits me best. 

Reminds me of someone.  

[*Deidre*]

I consider myself spiritual, I was a Christian for a while, and left then went back then left...it went on like this, and then I came to find that being spiritual, having beliefs in a higher power, but not holding to a religion, suits me best. 

Reminds me of someone.  

Really? That's cool.

I thought you followed a specific religion, but maybe that was a while back?

[Mystic]

Reminds me of someone.  

Really? That's cool.

I thought you followed a specific religion, but maybe that was a while back?

I was a Deist (believed in God without religion for about five years).

[*Deidre*]

Really? That's cool.

I thought you followed a specific religion, but maybe that was a while back?

I was a Deist (believed in God without religion for about five years).

Okay, wasn't there a mod at one point who was a Deist? I also thought someone here was Muslim. It's all coming back to me, now. 

[Mystic]

I was a Deist (believed in God without religion for about five years).

Okay, wasn't there a mod at one point who was a Deist? I also thought someone here was Muslim. It's all coming back to me, now. 

Rayaan is a Muslim.  Haven't seen him for a while.

DeistPaladin was the mod.

I was the Deist that actually defended God and took side of the Theists while DeistPaladin was a Deist more on the side of Atheists.

[J a c k]

Everything changes me in some way or another, at one level or another. Experience and the accumulation of knowledge together help me evolve consistently.

Things that have changed me:
-a preacher (I became untrusting of men)
-the first of over 27 school changes growing up. Suddenly I was the new girl and I continued to be the new girl for many more years. (I became a people pleaser, trying to win affection really fast before the next move)
-moving out of my parents’ bubble (what is this?! Me, facing the real world)
-the Bible Institute (what is this?! Me, facing a two month punishment in a small room. Long story)
-my first visit to a gay bar (So, I’m not the only one who likes that? There are others?)
-the thing (just no. This was the one that broke me and made me the worst version of me)
-marriage (I always thought mine would be like mom and dad’s. This is impossible.)
-kids (I LOVE these little people. I’m STRONGER for them. Fuuuuck! This love is HUGE)
-reading things besides the Bible (dropped religion)
-divorce (first time in life I have ever been free. Fuck. This is terrifying)
-life after divorce (what do I like? What music is this? What are my hobbies? Find some. So, I can think for me? Cool. Wait. Omg! Aaaaaah! Settle down. This feels good. Aaaaaah! Run in circles. How do people live with freedom? Fuck. It’s amazing! Ahhhhhhhhh! Never had I EVER! From birth to now. Oh lawrdy lawrd! I’m FREE! Who am I? Let’s find out.)

Pretty much.

[WinterHold]

Everything changes me in some way or another, at one level or another. Experience and the accumulation of knowledge together help me evolve consistently.


-moving out of my parents’ bubble (what is this?! Me, facing the real world)
-the Bible Institute (what is this?! Me, facing a two month punishment in a small room. Long story)
-my first visit to a gay bar (So, I’m not the only one who likes that? There are others?)
-the thing (just no. This was the one that broke me and made me the worst version of me)
-marriage (I always thought mine would be like mom and dad’s. This is impossible.)
-kids (I LOVE these little people. I’m STRONGER for them. Fuuuuck! This love is HUGE)
-reading things besides the Bible (dropped religion)
-divorce (first time in life I have ever been free. Fuck. This is terrifying)
-life after divorce (what do I like? What music is this? What are my hobbies? Find some. So, I can think for me? Cool. Wait. Omg! Aaaaaah! Settle down. This feels good. Aaaaaah! Run in circles. How do people live with freedom? Fuck. It’s amazing! Ahhhhhhhhh! Never had I EVER! From birth to now. Oh lawrdy lawrd! I’m FREE! Who am I? Let’s find out.)

Pretty much.

When "the thing" pass; you know that you will come back stronger..
Unless if it's the "other thing".

[*Deidre*]

At the time, the 'thing' is even hard to articulate, but once you conquer it, and you can articulate it, then you know you're healing. It's a great feeling.

Your personal set of things Ivy, and how you it shaped you, is inspiring!