I did it and you should too.

[Angrboda]

I don't have a living will and I don't have anything set up for my cremation. I probably should, but it's always so easy to put it out of mind.

[Abaddon_ire]

I'm on the second iteration of my will, and also got Power of Attorney set up so that my daughter can take the com in an emergency.  Body is already bequeathed to the local medical school.

Not an unusual thing. My will leaves all I own to my two kids, with a trusted friend as executor. When my eldest reaches 18, he/she will become executor. The terms are most unlikely to change much otherwise, but the will must be updated nonetheless.

[The Grand Nudger]

I don't have a living will and I don't have anything set up for my cremation.  I probably should, but it's always so easy to put it out of mind.

There's no specific instruction in mine as to how to dispose of my body, there's specific instruction that I ultimately don't give a shit, instead.  Everything goes to my eldest son (which is why I'm working hard on his ass as a person - talk about rough clay, lol).  

If he wants to use me as chum on a shark trip and he can get away with it...and that will help him get closure, fine.  He can do whatever the hell he wants and whatever will satisfy him, econo-oven is an option.  I actually want my ashes under the hearth of a house I want to build..but since I want him and his and all of mine to live in it forever..if he thinks I'm an asshole and wants to spread me out over the nearest convenient breeze just to finally be rid of me...what's most important to me, is that my will makes it explicitly clear that I'm down for that..that I understand. He can plant my body in a coffin in the backyard under a tree just so he can come bitch me out when he's stressed, too.

It's a shame I won't be there to see how he handles it all, lol. The ultimate irony of living and dying is that the final judgement made on your person is something that you can never be a party to. IDK, but I like to think my stepdad would have called his side of the family a bunch a catty bitches.

[mlmooney89]

Eh I live in a joint community state so by law if I die in Texas (which I will since I won't be leaving) everything goes to my husband automatically... not that there is anything for him to have other than my truck which still has $11k owed.

[The Grand Nudger]

Whats the point of having individual ownership of financial instruments and property if a state can nullify that ownership in the event of death?  Would you have to file as an injured spouse if your husband had prior individual commitments...essentially..rolling the dice? Or is that even an option?

Could you shift proprietorship to a state that isn't under that law?

[mlmooney89]

Whats the point of having individual ownership of financial instruments and property if a state can nullify that ownership in the event of death?  Would you have to file as an injured spouse if your husband had prior individual commitments...essentially..rolling the dice?  Or is that even an option?

Could you shift proprietorship to a state that isn't under that law?

Prior stuff can be written into things like pre-numps. My dad was married to another woman when he died so the only thing I got was his social security split between myself, sister (until we were 18) and his wife. There is $5k in the state from oil money that is his but I can't have it cause it belongs to his wife. I refuse to tell her it is there for her to take. If/when she dies I will claim it with my sister and split it then. Will's do supersede that law so if my dad had had one he could have left us stuff. Since he didn't she got it all as spouse. My dad lived in N Carolina with his wife but since he was military he got to pick which state he was a "citizen of" and since he was from Texas he picked that and therefore went by Texas rules. My step dad died in S Carolina and didn't have a will either. Now my mom has to give 1/6th of anything that was his to his bastard kid, even her house that had both their names.

I could get a will but seeing how I'm married to my child's father he would get everything anyway. If we were ever to divorced/separate (Texas doesn't have legal separation) I would get a will and specify I wanted it left to the kid.

[The Grand Nudger]

Fuckin Texas......see...this is why everything we do is out of Connecticut....legally. The Wife and I own property here (KY)...but beyond that....we have three llcs and one trust.

[Brian37]

Whats the point of having individual ownership of financial instruments and property if a state can nullify that ownership in the event of death?  Would you have to file as an injured spouse if your husband had prior individual commitments...essentially..rolling the dice?  Or is that even an option?

Could you shift proprietorship to a state that isn't under that law?

Prior stuff can be written into things like pre-numps. My dad was married to another woman when he died so the only thing I got was his social security split between myself, sister (until we were 18) and his wife. There is $5k in the state from oil money that is his but I can't have it cause it belongs to his wife. I refuse to tell her it is there for her to take. If/when she dies I will claim it with my sister and split it then. Will's do supersede that law so if my dad had had one he could have left us stuff. Since he didn't she got it all as spouse. My dad lived in N Carolina with his wife but since he was military he got to pick which state he was a "citizen of" and since he was from Texas he picked that and therefore went by Texas rules. My step dad died in S Carolina and didn't have a will either. Now my mom has to give 1/6th of anything that was his to his bastard kid, even her house that had both their names.

I could get a will but seeing how I'm married to my child's father he would get everything anyway. If we were ever to divorced/separate (Texas doesn't have legal separation) I would get a will and specify I wanted it left to the kid.

Have you spoken to an lawyer about the legality of not disclosing that? If it is hers you  better make sure that it is legal for you not to tell her. Waiting to get that may not be worth it if you are required to disclose that.

Courts can see omission in a bad light. Not saying you are doing anything wrong, just saying be sure.

[mlmooney89]

Prior stuff can be written into things like pre-numps. My dad was married to another woman when he died so the only thing I got was his social security split between myself, sister (until we were 18) and his wife. There is $5k in the state from oil money that is his but I can't have it cause it belongs to his wife. I refuse to tell her it is there for her to take. If/when she dies I will claim it with my sister and split it then. Will's do supersede that law so if my dad had had one he could have left us stuff. Since he didn't she got it all as spouse. My dad lived in N Carolina with his wife but since he was military he got to pick which state he was a "citizen of" and since he was from Texas he picked that and therefore went by Texas rules. My step dad died in S Carolina and didn't have a will either. Now my mom has to give 1/6th of anything that was his to his bastard kid, even her house that had both their names.

I could get a will but seeing how I'm married to my child's father he would get everything anyway. If we were ever to divorced/separate (Texas doesn't have legal separation) I would get a will and specify I wanted it left to the kid.

Have you spoken to an lawyer about the legality of not disclosing that? If it is hers you  better make sure that it is legal for you not to tell her. Waiting to get that may not be worth it if you are required to disclose that.

Courts can see omission in a bad light. Not saying you are doing anything wrong, just saying be sure.

It's public record. She could go online and find it if she wanted to. I have no duty to tell her. I just happened to find it myself by putting in names on the database. She can get it anytime she wants as well, just apply for it. Prove you are the direct person for it and they hand it over. It's not like you have to go to court for it.

[Mr.Obvious]

What's a living will?