I need some advice

[Nitsuj]

I'm a member on several forums, (and a very prominent one on nohomers.net) but this forum has the most compassionate and caring people, so can you help me?

Here's the situation: I'm not a person who makes friends easily because of my Asperger Syndrome. I have a couple school friends in Missouri, but the problem is at my secondary residence in Kansas. I have one really, really good friend, and many times, when I come visit my mom in Kansas (or stay the summer there) I invite him over. But now he's moving to South Africa. I have no idea what to do now. I don't have a facebook (and even if I wanted one, my mom wouldn't let me get one). I suppose I could talk to him through our youtube channels. But I need some help with how to cope with perhaps never seeing my best friend again. I couldn't stop crying yesterday after he left. Any tips you guys could give would help me a lot. This is a very, very difficult time for me...

[Minimalist]

Is the problem just how to keep in touch? Facebook is merely the current fad and will probably fade into oblivion soon enough.

For that matter, why not have him sign up here and keep in touch via the PM feature? Or just email?


Unless there is something more to it?

[Judas BentHer]

I'm sorry you're going through this now. However, there are solutions if your mom permits.

You might ask her if you can use Skype. You can video chat live with your friend very easily and there are safety/security features that you can apply to insure your personal security.
Skype has voice calling, which is cell phone type stuff, which isn't what I'm suggesting. Rather, there's a video live chat option that works well and it's a one on one encrypted chat. So you don't have tons of people blabbing into your conversation.

LINK You want to click on "Skype Free" after reviewing the site, to download whatever version applies to your computer. Windows, Mac, etc...

Or, you can check this link.

Good Secure Skype Alternative?

I don't know how old you are however, there's KW. Free, for kids and teens and it's moderated so it's a safe environment and hopefully none of that child predator question like, ASL? To contend with. (LINK) It's not as one on one as Skype, but it's an option.

Here's a Google for other such sites so you and your mom can take a look if you want.

[Nitsuj]

I know that I could keep in touch with him. My problem is how to get over not actually seeing him again. He's a really funny person, and just emailing and talking through the internet isn't the same. Plus, my mom won't pay for Skype.

[Judas BentHer]

Well, having moved to South Africa there's no way to get past not seeing him in the flesh unless you fly for a visit.
Maybe you can take this as an opportunity to appreciate people in your life while they're there and then to adapt to understanding when they're not so much, so you can deal with what is.

In this case, they're still somewhere just not where you can see them face to face in the flesh.

And the link I shared has "Free Skype" on the left side of the page. You don't have to pay for a thing to video chat with your friend. Just download free.

[Minimalist]

http://www.narticle.com/outstanding-subs...customers/


I'm not at all an expert on this stuff. I'm sure we have plenty of people who know all about it.

[Napoléon]

Why wouldn't you be able to see him again? Are planes going out of fashion or something?

[Violet]

Why wouldn't you be able to see him again? Are planes going out of fashion or something?

And video phones on top of that.

I certainly never let what my parents 'allowed' or did not stop me from doing anything I wanted to do.

[Nitsuj]

We aren't people who fly much. I've been on a plane twice in my life: To Atlanta and back. We've actually driven to Miami. Perhaps I could see him many years later, but what I'm looking for is some advice with how to cope with it. I'm not a person who even uses a cell phone. I only have one because I was forced to get one.

[Napoléon]

We aren't people who fly much. I've been on a plane twice in my life: To Atlanta and back. We've actually driven to Miami. Perhaps I could see him many years later, but what I'm looking for is some advice with how to cope with it. I'm not a person who even uses a cell phone. I only have one because I was forced to get one.

I'm guessing you are young if your mother still dictates what internet sites you can visit.

In that case, just be happy in the knowledge that if you reallllllly want to, you can visit him when you are older. If you truly are best of friends I don't see any reason why you wouldn't be able to see him/her again later in life (unless you get his by a bus, or fall down the stairs and break your neck, or the plane crashes on the way, oops, nevermind).

The world really is a small place you know