I need some advice

[Nitsuj]

I'm guessing you are young if your mother still dictates what internet sites you can visit.

I'm 15. And where did you get that idea? I can go where I want. She just won't pay for a lot the stuff.

[Napoléon]

I'm guessing you are young if your mother still dictates what internet sites you can visit.

I'm 15. And where did you get that idea? I can go where I want. She just won't pay for a lot the stuff.

Well you don't pay for facebook!

[Nitsuj]

Oh. That.

I don't want one of those anyway.

[Napoléon]

Oh. That.

I don't want one of those anyway.

Well there's plenty of ways to see your friend. Just be imaginative

You'll get to see them again.

[thesummerqueen]

Nitsuj -

I don't have AS, so I'm not sure how to give you advice that factors into it. I do, on the other hand, have a line into a man who has it and is somewhere around Min's age and if you permit me I could share your story with him and see what he thinks from his experienced position.

I do, however, have friends I grew up with from the time I was 4 or 5, in the same city, going to the same schools, hanging out after college and work, and then I moved 6 hours away. I did not have a facebook until that move, when suddenly I was far away from everyone I knew and loved and did not have a job or the gas money to get back up there. It's not as seemingly insurmountable as your position, but I will tell you - this relatively more minor situation was immediately helped by video chat.

You don't have to use Skype if you don't want to. Most messenger services contain their own video chat feature which you and your friend can test and which your parents might feel more comfortable with. I use Yahoo with my mother, as it's the only one she can figure out, and I use Windows Live with the guy I'm seeing, and Google (not Google +) or Skype for everyone else. All have worked relatively well. It's not the same as being able to be in that person's presence, but it helps IMMENSELY. I can't capitalize that enough. Even chatting online or talking on the phone is no where near as comforting as video chat.

As for coping with the loss of your friend, I might suggest a few counseling sessions with someone who can help you vent your feelings and develop ways of making new friends (it sounds more daunting and unappealing than it is). The thing I've learned about solid friendships is that distance and time leave no mark on them. I met the man I call my soul's brother when I was 11, and when we were 17 outside circumstances drove us apart. For 7 more years we had nothing to do with each other until he caught me on Facebook, and it was like we had never been separated. If you have a strong friendship with this person, I expect it will be much the same and when you're able to travel to see each other the months inbetween will be as nothing.

[Nitsuj]

Thanks! That was some good advice. I'm definitely going to talk to someone about it.

[Minimalist]

I do, on the other hand, have a line into a man who has it and is somewhere around Min's age

That old?


And he hasn't been killed yet?

[thesummerqueen]

Nope. He's very sweet. I'd say the same about you, but you have a reputation to uphold.