I have a super huge crush on this guy in my philosophy/oceanography classes. I'm pretty much hopeless when it comes to talking to the opposite sex, and I don't really have alot of friends here (I moved here a year ago). The first day of my philosophy class he talked to me asking me if I was taking oceanography (we both had marine bio together the semester before). We haven't talked since then, but he's also really quiet, he only talks to his one friend in the class (a girl, but not his girlfriend I don't think). I did some facebook stalking and I want to add him but I don't know if that will come across as creepy or not. We like all the same stuff, its pretty insane. I just wish I could be normal and talk to people normally but I'm not, so I guess thats why we have social networking, lol.

Anyways, opinions on what I should do?? Especially from the guys! All my girl friends just told me to do it.

I agree with your girl friends because they are right. Just go over and talk to the guy, he is not going to bite your head off.

Firstly, he's only a crush - you don't know him yet. Don't get too excited over a man who you don't know. You're interested - try talking to him. If you do add him on Facebook, add a comment - something flipant, "I add all the cute guys" or similarly interested but non commital.

Above all have fun, flirt and enjoy it. It's not a big deal, it's not like you're looking for a husband.

lol, I added him. I'm not getting overly excited I just overanalyze everything in life!

Go for it! Just don't be too forward, and be prepared to "just be friends". I've had unwanted attention from girls before, and I genuinely liked them but not in a "crush" sort of way. Most of us became good friends. Don't expect too much, but don't be prepared to back down at the first hurdle Just talk to him a little more, if he likes you he'll talk back. Sometimes life really is that simple

(February 13, 2009 at 3:08 pm)Rockthatpiano06 Wrote: I have a super huge crush on this guy in my philosophy/oceanography classes. I'm pretty much hopeless when it comes to talking to the opposite sex, and I don't really have alot of friends here (I moved here a year ago). The first day of my philosophy class he talked to me asking me if I was taking oceanography (we both had marine bio together the semester before). We haven't talked since then, but he's also really quiet, he only talks to his one friend in the class (a girl, but not his girlfriend I don't think). I did some facebook stalking and I want to add him but I don't know if that will come across as creepy or not. We like all the same stuff, its pretty insane. I just wish I could be normal and talk to people normally but I'm not, so I guess thats why we have social networking, lol.

Anyways, opinions on what I should do?? Especially from the guys! All my girl friends just told me to do it.

When you spoke with him, did you sense any chemistry between you? I used to be able to tell if anything could happen ( in those far-off days when I was dating fodder! ). Find another opportunity to talk and check it out. Good luck!

We talked for a little bit on facebook today, he sent the first message! We just talked about class and stuff but really what else are you going to say to someone that you've never talked to, lol. I don't know, could be promising! I mean he didn't have to message me, he could of just accepted the friend request and moved on. Not getting my hopes up though. I didn't embaress myself which means I can still return to class on Tuesday, thats about as much as I can ask for, haha.

bozo- We only talked for a few minutes, and it was like me getting ready to walk out of class and him catching me before I did. I usually come into class with headphones on though which I should probably stop doing. Nobodys going to try talking to me that way!! Also, i'm so bad at sensing chemistry. This is why I always like people that have no interest in me and seem to never notice the ones that do. this is why I fail at dating, and life, lol.

(February 13, 2009 at 3:08 pm)Rockthatpiano06 Wrote: I have a super huge crush on this guy in my philosophy/oceanography classes. I'm pretty much hopeless when it comes to talking to the opposite sex, and I don't really have alot of friends here (I moved here a year ago). The first day of my philosophy class he talked to me asking me if I was taking oceanography (we both had marine bio together the semester before). We haven't talked since then, but he's also really quiet, he only talks to his one friend in the class (a girl, but not his girlfriend I don't think). I did some facebook stalking and I want to add him but I don't know if that will come across as creepy or not. We like all the same stuff, its pretty insane. I just wish I could be normal and talk to people normally but I'm not, so I guess thats why we have social networking, lol.

Anyways, opinions on what I should do?? Especially from the guys! All my girl friends just told me to do it.

Just go and grab him!
Go over and talk to him. It should work out well.

(February 14, 2009 at 11:53 pm)Rockthatpiano06 Wrote: We talked for a little bit on facebook today, he sent the first message! We just talked about class and stuff but really what else are you going to say to someone that you've never talked to, lol. I don't know, could be promising! I mean he didn't have to message me, he could of just accepted the friend request and moved on. Not getting my hopes up though. I didn't embaress myself which means I can still return to class on Tuesday, thats about as much as I can ask for, haha.

bozo- We only talked for a few minutes, and it was like me getting ready to walk out of class and him catching me before I did. I usually come into class with headphones on though which I should probably stop doing. Nobodys going to try talking to me that way!! Also, i'm so bad at sensing chemistry. This is why I always like people that have no interest in me and seem to never notice the ones that do. this is why I fail at dating, and life, lol.

Sounds promising to me, he " caught " you before you got away at class and he's followed it up with a message. Give him a big smile and a cheery hello next time you see him.....then watch for the chemistry.
This could develop into a mini-soap.....just what we need amongst all the serious stuff!!

haha, soap opera it could be!! Hopefully with a happy ending

I also think he's an atheist or at the very least agnostic. *thumbs up*