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Is being a virgin a turnoff for girls in college
January 11, 2017 at 3:43 pm
I'm 23, a junior in college and I've never slept with, kissed, made out or had sex with a single girl in my 23 years of existence! Someone told me once that I'll probably remain a virgin for the rest of my lifetime since girls find that to be a huge turnoff. I don't know, it doesn't help that I'm very shy either. I dress normally, not weird and have good hygiene. I usually wear black or blue vans with black socks and then tan or olive cargo shorts and a plain t shirt. Sometimes long, and short depending on the weather. And I'm usually wearing a baseball cap. I wear deodorant, take showers regularly and brush my teeth. But I guess since I'm not drop dead gorgeous girls just aren't attracted to me 
I'm not expecting some super model to fall out of the sky and want to date me right away. But I just feel like I have zero attractive traits whatsoever and that girls just aren't attracted to me.
Like I said, I'm not weird or anything. I'm just shy and keep to myself. I am a very nice person though. Maybe I'm too nice? My Mom has told me I'm quite a great listener as well.
I don't live on campus either, I live by myself.
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RE: Is being a virgin a turnoff for girls in college
January 11, 2017 at 3:50 pm
(This post was last modified: January 11, 2017 at 3:53 pm by Alex K.)
That's, of course, nonsense. You need to take a step back for some perspective how life works outside juvenile college frat boy logic. The kind of woman you actually want to be in a long term relationship with won't care whether you are a virgin. One thing you definitely shouldn't do though is appear needy or play the embarassing pickup artist out of insecurity. Take it easy and concentrate on connecting to someone nice, and the sex will follow as a bonus. There's no rush. The best sex is had if both have a sense of humour about it anyways.
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RE: Is being a virgin a turnoff for girls in college
January 11, 2017 at 3:51 pm
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Nothing that propositioning a stranger can't fix. Relationship, lol...nice woman? What this boy needs is a firebreathing whore.
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RE: Is being a virgin a turnoff for girls in college
January 11, 2017 at 3:53 pm
(January 11, 2017 at 3:50 pm)Alex K Wrote: That's, of course, nonsense. You need to take a step back for some perspective how life works outside juvenile college frat boy logic. The kind of woman you actually want to be in a long term relationship with won't care whether you are a virgin. One thing you definitely shouldn't do though is appear needy or play the embarassing pickup artist out of insecurity. Take it easy and concentrate on connecting to someone nice, and the sex will follow as a bonus.
You should right a book about life. You seem to have all the answers. And I mean that whole heartily.
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RE: Is being a virgin a turnoff for girls in college
January 11, 2017 at 3:54 pm
(January 11, 2017 at 3:51 pm)Rhythm Wrote: Nothing that propositioning a stranger can't fix. Relationship, lol...nice woman? What this boy needs is a firebreathing whore.
Possibly, but I'm the wrong guy for that kind of advice 
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RE: Is being a virgin a turnoff for girls in college
January 11, 2017 at 3:55 pm
(January 11, 2017 at 3:51 pm)Rhythm Wrote: Nothing that propositioning a stranger can't fix. Relationship, lol...nice woman? What this boy needs is a firebreathing whore. But that would mean I'd have to get tested for STD's within minutes after contact. lol But I guess beggars can't be chooserS?
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RE: Is being a virgin a turnoff for girls in college
January 11, 2017 at 3:56 pm
(January 11, 2017 at 3:53 pm)It_Was_me Wrote: (January 11, 2017 at 3:50 pm)Alex K Wrote: That's, of course, nonsense. You need to take a step back for some perspective how life works outside juvenile college frat boy logic. The kind of woman you actually want to be in a long term relationship with won't care whether you are a virgin. One thing you definitely shouldn't do though is appear needy or play the embarassing pickup artist out of insecurity. Take it easy and concentrate on connecting to someone nice, and the sex will follow as a bonus.
You should right a book about life. You seem to have all the answers. And I mean that whole heartily.
I'm just retroactively trying to convince myself that I made all the right decisions. I'm an academic working in education, married with kids, so if that's what you are going for in life, you can take advice from me. If you want something more exciting, don't do as I say.
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RE: Is being a virgin a turnoff for girls in college
January 11, 2017 at 3:58 pm
(January 11, 2017 at 3:56 pm)Alex K Wrote: (January 11, 2017 at 3:53 pm)It_Was_me Wrote: You should right a book about life. You seem to have all the answers. And I mean that whole heartily.
I'm just retroactively trying to convince myself that I made all the right decisions. I'm an academic working in education, married with kids, so if that's what you are going for in life, you can take advice from me. If you want something more exciting, don't do as I say.
I can't do anything but ask; what is your field of expertise?
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RE: Is being a virgin a turnoff for girls in college
January 11, 2017 at 3:59 pm
(January 11, 2017 at 3:55 pm)It_Was_me Wrote: (January 11, 2017 at 3:51 pm)Rhythm Wrote: Nothing that propositioning a stranger can't fix. Relationship, lol...nice woman? What this boy needs is a firebreathing whore. But that would mean I'd have to get tested for STD's within minutes after contact. lol But I guess beggars can't be chooserS?
I think condoms are relatively reliable in that respect if you use them correctly. If you're just having the occasional fling with proper protectiom and not sleeping with a different partner every week, you should be fine, no?
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RE: Is being a virgin a turnoff for girls in college
January 11, 2017 at 4:00 pm
I was a virgin until I was 25. You'll be fine dude. It'll happen. I also wondered if I'd ever get laid.
Now I've gotten laid with 2 different people in RL I consider it overrated.
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